I don't know about you, but I come from a long line of women who hate to ask for help. We'd rather stand proudly in the pool of martyrdom, even if we are drowning – but at least we did it on our own, with good hair, fine china, and a purse that matched our shoes. Asking translated to weakness. Asking meant you weren't polite. Asking was rude. What we didn't realize, was that sometimes (and maybe most times) in order to get what we want, we have to ASK for it. Yet many of us, me included, are disappointed at all the things we didn't get that we never asked for.
Today was a good example for me. I want likes on my Facebook page – not to feel needed, but because it gives me more exposure to clients looking for motivational speakers. And yet every time I open my Facebook page and see that place where it gives me the option to ask my friends to like me – I ignore it. It just feels too needy. What if they say no? What if that makes me promiscuous?
But today I said, "What the heck. I'm always happy to like their pages. And they can always say no. I'll never know unless I ask." So I asked. And not even an hour later I got 80 likes – make that 81, I just got another while typing this. And I would bet by end of day that number will be higher.
Lesson to me: ASK.
Lesson to you: ASK.
They can always say no. But your chances are always better than if you said nothing at all.
So now that I've climbed out of the pool of martyrdom and into the pool of asking for what I want – does anybody have any diamonds they want to give me?
(P.S. In case you now want to go find me on Facebook, go to www.facebook.com/funnymotivationalspeaker. I'll be the one with all the likes.)