Huh? Perfect? My life? Not hardly. But her words really made me stop and think about why she would believe that was true. And then it hit me.
I mostly only post the fun stuff. The funny stuff. The happy stuff. I believe very strongly in the idea that:
That which we focus on, dwell upon and speak about – we tend to draw more of into our lives.
Okay, but on the other side of the coin, I have also read the posts of other motivational speakers who share things like their latest rave conference reviews, the new job they booked in Bali, pictures of the 15,000 people giving them a standing ovation, their latest book deal, etc., etc. And I remember thinking, the same thing, "Oh they are REALLY living the perfect life." But are they? And should I judge them if they want to focus on the positive things in their life? Besides, who wants to hear about my bunions, or my infestation of nematodes or the stupid air conditioner that broke as soon as the temperature hit 90 degrees.
But let's face it. If we accept the communication principle that the meaning of any message lies only in what the receiver takes it to mean – then I suppose we have to be sensitive to how people might interpret our message. AND – we have to take 100% responsibility for how we interpret theirs. And with THAT final thought in mind, I am reminded of one of the most powerful statements I ever heard. It helps me any time I start to feel a little envious that someone is enjoying something I don't have. It also helps me whenever someone does something that really annoys me. I don't have a source for it (if you do, please let me know,) but here it is:
Every person you meet has a story
that would break your heart
Ah, well. I think I'll stick with my life. Bunions, nematodes and all.