You Want My Life? Really?

perfectionOne of my best Facebook friends recently remarked, "You sure do lead a charmed life. It looks like everything in your world is pretty perfect."

Huh? Perfect? My life? Not hardly. But her words really made me stop and think about why she would believe that was true. And then it hit me.

I mostly only post the fun stuff. The funny stuff. The happy stuff. I believe very strongly in the idea that:

 That which we focus on, dwell upon and speak about – we tend to draw more of into our lives.

Okay, but on the other side of the coin, I have also read the posts of other motivational speakers who share things like their latest rave conference reviews, the new job they booked in Bali, pictures of the 15,000 people giving them a standing ovation, their latest book deal, etc., etc. And I remember thinking, the same thing, "Oh they are REALLY living the perfect life." But are they? And should I judge them if they want to focus on the positive things in their life? Besides, who wants to hear about my bunions, or my infestation of nematodes or the stupid air conditioner that broke as soon as the temperature hit 90 degrees.  

But let's face it. If we accept the communication principle that the meaning of any message lies only in what the receiver takes it to mean – then I suppose we have to be sensitive to how people might interpret our message.  AND – we have to take 100% responsibility for how we interpret theirs.  And with THAT final thought in mind, I am reminded of one of the most powerful statements I ever heard. It helps me any time I start to feel a little envious that someone is enjoying something I don't have. It also helps me whenever someone does something that really annoys me.  I don't have a source for it (if you do, please let me know,) but here it is:

Every person you meet has a story
that would break your heart


Ah, well. I think I'll stick with my life. Bunions, nematodes and all.



Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700

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  1. Oh, Linda, you know I love the statement about everyone having a story because it's truth. Such beautiful truth. My sweetie and I are in Maui right now enjoying a last minute vaca due to an Oahu speaking engagement. How grateful I feel. I'm online because he's napping after we experienced a day of seeing coral and fish that pop like paint samples. Our FB posts make it all look so perfect because that is what we choose to share rather than our stupid spif that lasted 15 minutes over his impatience with my using my Iphone to find a specific remote location. My daughters and I always joke that FB should force you to make one reality post  out of every five WOW moments. "Just farted after eating a family size Hummus in one sitting while watching a Bravo channel marathon." Gotta go, my baby woke up and there's a sunset to catch.

  2. Sitting here in a car dealership because our car broke down on way back from vacation. We could be griping and complaining that we had to get a hotel room. We could be whining that we might not even get to leave today. We could complain that there's no soap in the men's bathroom, or that they are out of bottled water. But we choose to see this as an adventure. We raved about the whirlpool in our hotel room. We gushed over the Indian food we had delivered. We talked about all the ways this could have been much worse. We chose to see this as an adventure. And so I post about my happy day. To which someone will find a way to let that make them feel worse. Oh well. Their choice. Thanks to you ladies, I choose joy. 

  3. Kelly, this sort of reminds me of that movie, It's A Beautiful Life. Remember the one wherein the dad and the son are in a concentration camp and the dad believes that if he sets up the experience for his son that it's a big game and an adventure, then maybe his son won't be scared. It was indeed a beautiful film. Thank you for the reminder of that!

  4. Does this mean that the food I prepare is the most happy, perfect thing I choose to post?  Time to expand my experience!

  5. I really LOVE you guys! Your post Linda, and the responses are priceless.  I too like to post positive things yet sometimes struggle with wanting to be real, but inspiring. Does that make sense?  I want to connect people and let them know how awesome life is, without coming across as bragging.  You guys do that brilliantly.  Recently I had someone comment that 'Everything is all about me' and I'm still trying to decipher if this rant (and it was a rant without room for negotiating) was a personal attack against me for some reason or do I really give that off to the world?  The question becomes, how do I inspire people (women especially) to go for it – ask for what they want – stand up and be seen – and demonstrate that behavior with grace and humility?  Hmmmm…maybe a topic for another blog post.  Thanks for opening up the conversation and Colette and Kelly – thanks for sharing your adventures on your vacations!

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