When you’re at the game, be at the game

You’ve probably heard that you can’t be at two places at once.  Yet, we do it all the time. Not literally, but mentally. We’re at work and we’re thinking about our kids at daycare.  We’re at a little league game and our head is occupied with the upcoming deadline at work.  We’re on Facebook thinking we really should get back to work!

My friend just expressed her anxiety about going on vacation for the first time in a long time. She’s worried about what will happen if her clients can’t reach her right away. “What if they call and can’t get ahold of me? What if they get mad that I don’t return their call right away?”  If she went on vacation with that mindset, I’m afraid her trip will go by without her ever feeling like she left!

Her anxiety reminded me of a participant from one of my motivational speaking engagements.  Let me explain.  This participant told me that she has a lot of stress at work (who doesn’t?) and that there was enough work for her to do every single day that even when she wasn’t at work, she was stressing over it.  In fact, she was one of the fortunate people who went to the Super Bowl.  Finally, you would think, that she would let her hair down, forget about work and enjoy the game.  No.  She was so anxious about the work that wasn’t done, the work that needed to be done, the work that could be done, that she didn’t even enjoy the game.  My advice to her was the same advice I gave my friend.  When you’re at the game, be at the game.  Don’t exert any energy on projects that aren’t in your control while you are at the game.  So for my friend, I told her to simply give her clients a heads up on her vacation plans, handle everything that needs immediate attention before she leaves, and anything else will have to wait.  She is a very capable person who has surrounded herself with capable people.  I am sure if anything did come up, someone else certainly could help out.

So when you’re at work, be at work. When you’re on vacation, be on vacation.  And, when you’re on Facebook, give yourself a scheduled amount of time or else you just might spend way too much time there and be anxious about work again!  And, by all means, if you have a ticket to the Super Bowl, and you are too stressed to enjoy the game? Give me a call – I’ll go instead!

From your ‘One day I’m going to the Super Bowl’ motivational speaker, Marilyn Sherman


Marilyn Sherman, CSP is a Front-Row Leadership Expert helping people get out of the balcony and get a front-row seat in life. For over 20 years she has inspired audiences with topics on Visioning, Goal Achievement and having a No More Excuses attitude! Check out her fun, dynamic style at http://www.MarilynSherman.com

Marilyn Sherman, Owner UpFront Presentations - Helping people get a Front-Row seat in their life!
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  1. True that Marilyn! Those are life-saving words right there. As a motivational speaker, I call it being in the moment. Soaking up all that moment has to give. This means shutting out everything else – leaving it at the front door – making eye contact – giving someone your full attention – seeing the beauty in what is before you – listening to the words that are whispered in your ear, meant for you at that time. It means stopping to realize that this may be the last day you get. So what will you do with this moment? Even as a comedian, I find myself getting too serious. I am working ALL the time – while my seven-year-old is drawing me pictures, making me things, and growing up while I’m not paying attention. When I look back on my life I will not regret that I couldn’t make another phone call. I will regret that I didn’t hug him one more time. So, thank you, Marilyn for the reminder that life is too short to not pay attention.

    Your wacky motivational speaker friend, Kelly, who at least for now, is in the moment

  2. Oh my yes. GREAT advice for EVERYONE! Motivational speakers, tinkers, tailors, soldiers, spies. Admins, mommies, daddies, flies. (Reaching for a rhyme here). But this is one of those habits (focus totally on what is in front of us) that will never because absolutely automatic. We CAN, however, gently remind ourselves over and over to come back to what’s in this now moment. Thank you for the reminder, Marilyn!

  3. Reminds me of an article I read years ago about Suzanne Somers. She was sharing how even during her own wedding vows she wasn’t in the moment because she was too busy worrying about the caterers in her kitchen preparing enough food for everyone. I’ll throw myself under the bus on this one too. Just a few weeks ago when the semester switched my daughter came home all excited to share scoop on her new teachers. I had just finished a business call, and my mind was swirling with possibilities. I’ll out myself and share that this motivational speaker was NOT in her moment. Since I’ve raised the girls to speak their truth, she called me out. Great lesson. Great reminder. And lucky for me, I’ve got a great kid even if I’m far from perfect.

  4. Always good to be reminded of being mindful in whatever we’re doing, Colette! I try to take 3 breaths before I begin any task and that serves as a reminder to drop into full engagement with whatever I’m doing and let worry and other distractions go. As a motivational speaker on healthy eating and exercising, I stress the point of being present while eating so that you can appreciate the flavors and aid in digestion and absorption of nutrients (really!) and certainly we need to be focused on our bodies as we’re exercising to get the best benefit and avoid injury. Easier said then done but we’re all wonderful works in progress! Thank you for a much needed reminder!

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