Would you let someone saw you in half? Even if they told you it was "just an illusion," would you lie calmly on a table as they laugh maniacally, rev up the chain saw and move it slowly toward your midsection?
When my meteorologist husband (who, in fact, used to be a magician) asked me yesterday if he could saw me in half for a promotional piece he was doing, without even thinking about it, I said, "Sure! That sounds like fun!" Thoughts like, "How will this work exactly?" or "Is this really safe?" or "Did he take out an insurance policy on me when I wasn't looking?" never really entered my mind.
Yes, funny motivational speakers are always looking for new material. Yes, we are risk-takers, and yes, sometimes things don't always work out they way they are supposed to. First the blade got stuck in the wooden block. The next time he couldn't get it IN the wooden block. The third time, with the saw on high speed, the blade flew off the handle and went sailing across the room, knocking a vase of flowers onto the floor. The whole time we were laughing hysterically.
You might wonder why I wasn't a bit more apprehensive about this, and I certainly asked myself that exact question. The reason, I decided, was twofold:
1. A long time ago, John Scalzi and I decided that the "HOW" of our relationship (more about the WHAT and the WHY later) was "Laughing all the way!" We decided that. We committed to it and we live it most of the time. It's HOW we live out our relationship because we look for ways to make that happen. It's like we have our antenna wired to find the funny. What is your "relationship antenna" dialed in to pick up?
2. There is a WHOLE lot of trust in our relationship. I trust that I can be silly and goofy and totally spontaneous and he will love me no matter what. In fact, I'm pretty sure he loves me BECAUSE of those behaviors. He trusts that I will be his greatest cheerleader and forever playmate and buddy. He knows that I find his zany, unpredictable fearlessness not only fun – but downright sexy. Do you and your partner have a high level of trust?
Okay, well that's all the meaning I can pull out of my husband trying to saw me in half. That – and – obviously he must love me SO much that he wanted TWO of me!