I was cleaning out my guest room for a visit from, you guessed it, my mother. So imagine my surprise when I found a book by Steve Chandler on my shelf called '100 Ways to Motivate Yourself'. I randomly opened the book and #69 said; Turn Your Mother Down. I had to laugh thinking how hard it is to say no to my mom! I am getting better. Considering I'm a motivational speaker and I'm 49 years old, so you would think I have this down cold. I have learned from my dear friend and motivational speaker Colette Carlson to Speak My Truth so I don't get caught up in the tug-of-war with my mom: keeping her happy, suppressing my true thoughts, feeling guilty, you know the drill. Now that my mom is here, (and we're having a terrific visit) I actually went back to re-visit the book to see what Steve meant about turning down my mother. Was it to say 'no' to her more often? Then I had to laugh again. He was talking about being optimistic and pessimistic. And if we were raised by a pessimisitc mother, then we would have the tendancy to hear her voice in our heads when we start to think negatively. He suggests to turn the volume of your mother's voice down and keep thinking until you hear your own voice. Your own optimistic, positive voice!
From your grateful motivational speaker who needs to remember to turn myself down once in awhile, Marilyn Sherman
P.S. Anyone else have trouble turning their mother down? Please share!