We all hit potholes in the yellow brick road of life – even motivational speakers. None of us are immune to them. And I believe that every pothole has its "season" – that there is a time for denial, and there is a time to roll up in a ball on the sofa under your favorite blanket and cry. A time to rage at the powers that be, and a time to blame everybody that was responsible for getting you to this place. A time to partake in something very bad for you, but comfortable for your soul – whether that's wine, cigarettes, or heaping plates of macaroni and cheese and chocolate. A time to go for obscene amounts of time without a shower or a hair brush.
We all have different ways of dealing with this time in our life – but at some point ALL of us come to the point where it's time to stop wallowing and get in the shower. To acknowledge that, to some degree, it was our choices that brought us here – and it will be our choices that get us out. At some point we decide it's time to get back up, dust ourselves off, and get a new perspective. (Remember that we can't control everything in our life – but we can always control how we let it affect us.)
And so today I am talking to those of you who are curled up on the sofa, dealing with a life that didn't go the way you planned. And I'm sending you a virtual hug. And I'm saying that maybe it's not time for you to get up – that maybe you need a little more soul comforting. So take it if you need it. But I'm also gently asking you if it's time to get up? Is it time to take a deep breath and pick up the pen to write a new chapter? Every moment you spend on that sofa is one more moment you keep yourself from changing your ending. And only you can say whether that moment is here. And if it is, let me be the voice of encouragement that says what you need to hear – that kicks you gently in the butt – and tells you that it's time to get up off that sofa, quit wallowing, and take a shower. It's time to show us what you are made of – and that you will not let this pothole break you. What happened to you happened. It's over. This next moment is on you. YOU decide what happens next.
I wish you all the best, and hope that you will take this message with the love intended. No, I don't know what it's like to be in your shoes. But I do know what it's like to have a friend reach out and push me into the shower. It may not feel like it right now – but it's a blessing.
One day, this too shall pass.