Recently I attended a conference in a Florida city where I was an attendee. I was not one of several motivational speakers who presented throughout the day long event. In fact, since it was a rather small, local event, I didn’t know anyone except one of the speakers I came there to support – and no one knew me.
At one point my speaker friend introduced me to another one of the women speakers, telling her that I was also a professional speaker. The woman looked at me without smiling and said, “What’s your topic.” I replied, “I help people communicate more effectively with themselves and others in order to get what they want out of life.” She looked back, with no emotion and said, “Communication, right. That’s nice.” Then she walked away. Just like that. No “Nice to meet you,” “Where are you from?” “Peace be with you.” Nothing.
I sent all of the speakers a quick email after their presentations to acknowledge them and to thank them for their contribution to the event. Apparently when I did, the woman I had the encounter with clicked on my website to see who I was and well, how can I put this, her toned changed. She emailed me back, ooohing and ahhhhing and praising my videos, client list, etc., telling me that she would like to learn from me.
And that got me to thinking. Do I ever do that? Do I ever meet someone and subtly dismiss them with my actions? Assuming that, for whatever reason, I don’t NEED to know them so I can just move on? I pray to God I don’t. But I know what I could do to make CERTAIN that I don’t.
From now on, every time I meet someone new I’m going to treat them like they are someone famous – like how I’d treat Tom Hanks, or Angelina Jolie or George Clooney. I certainly wouldn’t dismiss any of them with, “You’re an actor, right. That’s nice.” – and walk away. I’d shake their hand with conviction, look them straight in their eyes and smile like a crazy person. I’d say, “tell me more about you.” And then I’d listen like I was really, really interested in what they had to say.
Wow. Don’t you think that if we all did this when we met someone new – it could make people feel really good? AND open the door to some great relationships? And who knows – they just MIGHT be really famous!
From your star-struck motivational speaker, Linda Larsen