Would you choose to be a loyal Facebook user if you were required to post one unpleasant hard, cold truth for every three “life is great” moments? Or if you had to post all vacation pictures – even the ones that look worse than your passport photo? Talk about facing your truth! Can you imagine?
Post: Finished off a bag of Dark Chocolate Milanos rather than make outgoing sales calls.
Post: Started romantic vacation with a nasty fight over directions to the condo. Still not speaking.
The truth according to research from Germany found that one in three people felt worse after visiting Facebook. "We were surprised by how many people have a negative experience from Facebook, with envy leaving them feeling lonely, frustrated or angry," researcher Hanna Krasnova told Reuters.
If you ever feel that way, remind yourself that most people’s pages are simply the highlight reel of their life, and dare not to compare. My friend Linda Larsen recently wrote about this in an insightful blog post. Yet, there’s also research that suggests Facebook can be your friend in those down in the dumps moments, as long as you stay on YOUR page!
Researchers at Cornell University provided study participants either positive or negative feedback on a speech they gave. The participants then had the option to visit YouTube, news sites or their own Facebook page. Those receiving the negative feedback chose Facebook more often. Apparently, seeing all those family, friends, “likes,” photos of fun times and whatnot on your page is soothing to the wounded ego.
I’m guessing we’ve all experienced both sides of this reality. Facebook can offer a great way to connect or re-connect with friends and loved ones — not to mention how handy it is to have those birthday reminders! And I always appreciate a status update that causes me to chuckle, ponder a truth, or motivates me to take action. As for the updates from that perfectly slender, funny, always sucking face with loving partner on a vacation in a tropical place with well-scrubbed children in cute outfits friend? Well, let’s just say, the ability to block people from the news feed is a great tool for ensuring peace of mind.