The Power of Positive Expectation

Dr. David Lieberman in his book, Get Anyone To Do Anything, writes that if you want someone to do something, you will be more successful if you speak and act directly, clearly and confidently – as if you truly expect them to comply.  Also, he advises us to take the corresponding physical action.

For example, if you want them to come with you, get up and start walking toward the door – without looking back to see if they are coming.  Your words and actions must convey your absolute belief they the person will do exactly as you ask.

Here’s where we get into trouble with this idea:  When we have what we think is EVIDENCE that they are not going to do what we ask.  For example,

They’ve never agreed to this idea in the past
They never say yes to ANYTHING you ask for
They are in a really bad mood right now and historically this is NOT a good time

And on and on it goes.

What this means is that YOUR job is to let go of your “already knowing” how it is going to go.  THAT negative belief will color how you make your request, as well as your physical actions.  And however subtle it may show up, the other person CAN pick up your hesistance.

From your very own personal motivational speaker, Linda Larsen

 

 

 

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Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
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Comments

  1. Another thought provoking blog from one of my favorite motivational speakers!  You’ve made me think back to when my children were toddlers and I read this fabulous article on how to reduce battles and conflict with your 2 year old (or older).  It’s basic message was “don’t expect a problem”.  When we anticipate that there will be disagreement, sure enough, there it is.  Whereas if we truly believe that there won’t be any problem with a request, the toddler has no problem being compliant.  It worked beautifully with my boys but I honestly have to say I haven’t put it to the stringent test on fellow adults.  I’ll let you know how it turns out when I do so! Thanks for always helping me grow, Linda!

  2. Awesome Linda! I’m going to try this!

  3. Another great tip from motivational speaker herself, Linda Larsen.

  4. Linda you continue to write really great ideas on how to get along and get along with others.  Love it!

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