The Gift in Aisle 9

Womens-leadership-speaker-Colette-CarlsonDuring the holidays, when we all seem to be rushing around trying to check things off our endless  to-do list, consider one of the greatest gifts you can give: The gift of time. Simply pausing, looking someone in the eye and making that connection can make all the difference. 

I was reminded of this during an encounter I had with a man at my local drugstore a few years back. (This article, and many more, can be found on my website, Speak Your Truth.)

"Look at all the sugar in these cereals," the shrunken, 85-year old man said aloud at my local drugstore. As he reached for the Cheerios off the shelf, our eyes met. "I'm down to one teaspoon in my coffee, instead of three. Heck, during WWII I was happy if the coffee was even hot." His eyes welled with tears.

"I never used to cry, but I seem to cry all the time now," said the man I'd soon learn was called Frank.

"That's good," I replied with a big smile, "it means you're normal and human." Frank returned the smile as he started to tell me more about his buddies in the service. I glanced at the milk I had just put into my cart, and thought about how much more needed to get done during this busy holiday season. When I looked up at Frank, our eyes connected once more, and my heart made a decision to be in the moment and enjoy the gift of conversation.

Together in Aisle 9, I listened as he talked about his wartime experience, and the largest land battle ever fought by our country — the Battle of the Bulge. "Do you know that there were over 70,000 American casualties during that battle alone?"

"Yes, I do because my Dad was captured in that battle, and became a Prisoner of War in Stalag 11B." Frank's eyes were alert when I shared the story of how Dad's frozen feet were saved thanks to the friendship he developed with a German nurse's young son during his brief hospital stay. The boy, who wanted to learn English, was drawn to my Dad's warmth, smile and playful nature. As a thank you, he brought Dad a bottle of schnapps the night before the German doctors were going to amputate his feet. Dad drank the liquor, massaged his feet all night through the intense pain and got enough circulation going to prevent the operation. Frank chuckled when I shared how Dad ended up playing professional football for the Detroit Lions and Philadelphia Eagles with those same feet!

Our conversation went back and forth, and I lost all track of time. Then the conversation came to a natural close. Frank put out his hand, and warmly said, "Thank you for taking the time to talk with me." "It was my pleasure," I said, "but a handshake won't do. I want a big holiday hug!" As I held this sweet, dear man in my arms, I could feel his body shake as he could no longer hold back tears.

As I took my warm milk to the check-out counter, I reflected on the incredible gifts Frank had just given me. First, the gift of perspective. Who cared what didn't get done today?! I had the freedom and privilege to sleep in a warm bed tonight and enjoy a hot cup of coffee tomorrow. Second, the joy of giving. My heart was full from being able to reciprocate by giving Frank the one gift that's difficult to find, yet never requires wrapping- the gift of time. Find a way to give yourself this gift, and truly enjoy the HoliDAZE.


Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. Wow, Colette!  i love getting to know more about you through your wonderful stories.  And you're so right about the value of the gift of time.  I always seem to have an endless to-do list running through my head and just today when I was chunking through it I was stopped by a chance meeting with an old student of mine who seemed very earnest to catch up.  At first I was antsy to get going but then I too, made the decision to be in the moment of conversation and as it turned out, both our mother-in-laws are in the throws of early Alzeimers and we were able to exchange some valuable, local resources that can help both of our families in the months to come.  That wouldn't have happened if I begged an early exit.  Thank you for getting this message out to the world!

  2. I just LOVE this story. I'm so glad you shared it. I needed to hear it again. It's a gift that really keeps on giving. Merry Christmas Colette!


  3. Oh geez.  Now I'm crying.  I know, I know, it doesn't take much for a motivational speaker to be moved to tears, but this one got me.  And it got me in the best of ways. It inspires me to go do the same thing. Go give someone the gift of my listening.  Thanks SO much for sharing this Colette!!!  

    P.S.  And your dad sounds like an AMAZING man!!

  4. What a great story – and the story within the story!  I had not heard that story before about your dad and the schnapps.  Very cool story!  Thanks for sharing it Colette and for continuing to speak your truth.  Can't wait to see you in a few weeks!

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