Is it just motivational speakers and trainers – or does everyone get annoyed when you have GREAT advice to give someone and they just won't take it? Don't you have a time in your life when you just KNEW there was something that would make your friend/lover/spouse/daughter/sister/co-worker's life so much better and when you tried to tell them what it is – they refusedto hear it? What's the matter with these people, anyway! Don't they know how smart you are???
Such was the case in my life a while back when I had "advice" for a friend of mine. He couldn't hear it. Maybe he didn't want to hear it. Maybe he wasn't ready. Who knows. But after lamenting to my girlfriend Alice about this, she wisely and casually gave me some insight.
She asked me, if I was trying to give an actual boxed gift to someone and they didn't want it, would I grab their hand and try to FORCE the gift in it? When they withdrew their hand again, would I continually grab their hand and continue to insist that they "Take the danged gift!!!!"
She suggested that maybe a better approach might to to simply offer the gift, with love, and if they say no, to gently set the gift down at their feet. Leave it there. They know what it is. They can open it if they choose. You have done your part. The rest is up to them.
Soooo much easier, right?
From your motivational speaker, Linda Larsen, wrapping gifts as we speak