That helicopter mother needs to get a life!
Guess who didn’t show up again for her child’s activities?
Don’t they ever schedule anything in the evening so working parents can attend?
As a professional keynote speaker who is blessed to speak at women’s conferences across the country, I often hear the above comments from attendees. I’ve also heard similar comments at the playground, school events, dinner parties and networking events over the years.
Since today is International Women’s Day, I want to add my own opinion: Stop the Judgment! Speak YOUR truth, and let others speak their truth. Speak YOUR truth by living in alignment with YOUR goals and values. To me, there is a big difference between speaking your truth and speaking your mind. Speaking your mind often comes with judgment about what others should do, rather than simply living YOUR truth.
News flash: Whether or not you work inside or outside of the home, you don’t love your children any less! Some people have more options than others, and why is YOUR truth the one everyone else should follow? Isn’t the goal that women have choices to do what works best for them and their families?
For example, yesterday I sat in on a “working mother” panel discussion while waiting to deliver the keynote luncheon presentation. Many who stood up to share spent their time validating their choice whether that was to stay home when the children were young, work when they were young and stay home during the teenage years, develop their careers before having children so they had attained enough seniority to have flexibility, or work part time. And my heart ached inside because I knew there were single mothers in the room that didn’t have as many options. As women, the last thing we need to do is to add more guilt to anyone who is doing their best to survive and thrive.
Women throughout the world are the givers, the nurturers and the caretakers for the generations to come. Research also shows when women are in the C-suite, serving on the executive team and sitting in the board room, companies are more ethical and deliver higher profits. We need women to stop competing and start connecting so we can heal this world. It starts with compassion and acceptance of others. It starts with compassion and acceptance of self. Speak YOUR truth and allow others to do the same.