As a motivational speaker and storyteller, I spend a lot of time in the spotlight – whether that spotlight is a stage, a conference room, a coliseum, an online article, or a facebook page. Therefore it comes with the territory that motivational speakers have lots of opportunities to mess up. We step into a spotlight where our achievements are displayed. And so are our gaffs. And the more we succeed, the more that gaff matters to our career. We are professionals – we can't afford to have too many off days.
So I am well aware that with any amount of success and fame, comes a sometimes equal amount of failure. It comes with the territory. It comes with taking risks. You can't get better until you try new things, and it's a given that not everything you try will work. You can't have success without risk and failure. It's still not easy though when it happens. I know, because it just happened to me. Again.
I will spare you the details (for once) maybe because it's still too painful to talk about. But I want to talk about it, because I know that somewhere along the way, you will know this feeling. You will try something and it won't work. And you will want to crawl into a corner and rethink your reason for living. Or at the very least, question your dream.
THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT MOMENT FOR YOU. This could be the moment that makes you or breaks you. Not that moment where you bombed – but THIS moment where YOU decide what you will do with this. Many people quit at this point. Many people will walk out of that spotlight and never return. Many will take this as a sign that they can't do this.
Don't be one of them.
Let me be this gentle voice of truth reminding you that failure is part of the process. So you bombed. Get over it. Lick your wounds. Talk about it to someone who doesn't mind listening. LEARN from it. It could be one of your best life lessons. Assess where you went wrong, and how you can keep that from happening again. See the reality of the situation. Don't blow it out of proportion. One mess up doesn't mean you are a worthless human being. One mess up doesn't mean that the dream bites.
Take a deep breath, put the new lesson in your briefcase, and then put this behind you. Find a way to laugh about it, and you will take away its power to make you quit. Dust yourself off and get back out there in the spotlight as fast as you can. And remember that the world would not be the magical place that it is, if everybody quit when they failed.
I believe in you. Now go out there and believe in yourself.
You can't fly unless you are willing to fall.