Smile When You Say That, Sister!

For motivational speakers – the WORLD is our classroom!  We learn so much about how life works just by watching life in action.  And a recent experience I had gave me some very important information about how I show up in the world!

I walked into a clothing store and saw two sales ladies talking to each other.  I waited for a moment and then interrupted them by saying, “Excuse me.  Is there a dressing room where I can try this on?”

The woman I addressed looked like she was THINKING, “Well, you don’t have to get snippy about it.”  Her actual words were, “I have to get the key.”

While she located the key, I thought to myself, “Why did she have that attitude?  I wasn’t being snippy with her.”

After she let me in the dressing room, I continued to think about what happened.

Then I did it.  I tried something I’ve suggested to people in the past.  I looked in the mirror in the dressing room and very quietly repeated the words I had just said to her.  My goal was see if there was anything in my face that was inconsistent with what I was feeling when I spoke to her.  And BINGO!  There it was!!!

When I said the words, I LOOKED a little aggravated, offensive and tense.  I really did!  I almost laughed out loud.  Hey, if someone spoke to me with that look on their face, I probably would have reacted the same way!  And why did I look like that?  Well, if the truth were known, it was probably because I WAS a little annoyed that they were just chatting away, paying no attention to me.  Me – the paying customer.  I wasn’t feeling angry – just a little low-grade annoyance.

Funny how those feelings just creep their way into your face when you least expect it.

Here’s the deal: We really DON’T know how we look to others as we interact with them.  And for me, I have learned that if I will make an effort to smile when I speak, it works magic on my face.  I’m not talking about some big phony smile, just a pleasant, relaxed one.

And what is it they say, “Smile and the whole world smiles with you.  Frown – and you tick people off.”

Well, something like that.

From your SMILING motivational speaker, Linda Larsen


Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700

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  1. I am picturing you standing there talking to yourself in the mirror. And now I am smiling! So thank you for cheering up this motivational speaker!

  2. Locking the dressing rooms? Are they afraid you’ll steal the hooks?! Just kidding, I know the drill. Although it’s true we need to match our tone and words with our face, I’m certain you weren’t looking snippy. You’re just TOO happy of a motivational speaker to do that! Plus, you were shopping which is fun. Then again, were you trying on bathing suits? That can be a look out in anyone….

  3. Hey Linda – I thought about this post today as I was trying to stay calm with a home owners association representative who really made a mistake with the accounting of our money.  Even in conflict and uncomfortable conversations, you don’t have to smile necessarily, but stay neutral and consistent with your words which hopefully will lead to resolution.  When not in conflict resolution mode?  Smile all day and show those pearly whites!

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