“Oh boy, another juicy turkey this year,” my aunt proclaimed, rolling her eyes as my uncle struggled to carve the dry-as-sawdust bird. Ah yes, the holiday tradition of a dry turkey and a sarcastic comment. Can anyone else relate to this scenario shared by a friend?
As we head into the season when loved ones gather to celebrate, these get-togethers also can usher in conflict. Old family patterns and hurts re-surface, often characterized by a communication style that emerges in these stressful situations and wreaks emotional havoc: sarcasm. Sarcasm’s root word means “to tear flesh, bite the lip in rage, sneer,” and if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of someone’s harsh sarcasm, it does leave a wound.
And, if I’m speaking my truth, I’ve wounded a few in my day, wanting the laugh at someone else’s expense. When brown-eyes (my former hubby of 18 years and dear friend) chose not to be employed for a LONG spell, rather than bite my tongue, I bit. “What does your husband do for a living?” was met with, “Not enough.” An example of speaking your mind, not your truth. Here's a healthier choice.