Serving Sarcasm This Season?

Stress-less-speaker-Colette-Carlson“Oh boy, another juicy turkey this year,” my aunt proclaimed, rolling her eyes as my uncle struggled to carve the dry-as-sawdust bird. Ah yes, the holiday tradition of a dry turkey and a sarcastic comment. Can anyone else relate to this scenario shared by a friend?

As we head into the season when loved ones gather to celebrate, these get-togethers also can usher in conflict. Old family patterns and hurts re-surface, often characterized by a communication style that emerges in these stressful situations and wreaks emotional havoc: sarcasm. Sarcasm’s root word means “to tear flesh, bite the lip in rage, sneer,” and if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of someone’s harsh sarcasm, it does leave a wound.

And, if I’m speaking my truth, I’ve wounded a few in my day, wanting the laugh at someone else’s expense. When brown-eyes (my former hubby of 18 years and dear friend) chose not to be employed for a LONG spell, rather than bite my tongue, I bit. “What does your husband do for a living?” was met with, “Not enough.” An example of speaking your mind, not your truth. Here's a healthier choice.


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  1. So true. So true. Some southern women have mastered the art of sarcasm – the thinly veiled insult – the harsh comment wrapped in a bless your heart – the never ending radar that seeks out others and judges their actions.  Not much we can do to stop them. But we can keep from doing it ourselves, and we can let their comments roll off and anger someone else instead of us. We're too busy eating to be upset. Thanks Colette! Love your words of wisdom and truth.

  2. Oh yes, Colette. And part of the problem is that my actual "title" is Funny Motivational Speaker. And THAT means that I use a LOT of sarcasm as part of my humor.  You know, acting out the thoughts we all think but hopefully don't say. So, in some weird way, I'm actually PRACTICING sarcasm!  I'd better rethink this! Thanks for shining a light on this!

  3. Colette, how did you know I'm about to go spend time with family that drips with sarcasm, me included?  There certainly is a healthier option, and I thank you for pointing it out. By the way, the family will be in Del Mar if you have time for coffee or a walk on the beach!

  4. Oh, I love this, Colette! Using sarcasm as a way of not speaking one's truth is absolutely right.  I'd never thought of it that way before.  I'll never forget throwing back a sarcastic comment to my then 6 year old boy in the car one day.  As soon as I delivered it I felt horrible!  I had the thought that this was probably his first experience with this kind of wound and was left confused and hurt by it.  I shiver when I think about it to this day.  Thank you for yet another honest insight of our human behavior and ways to elevate ourselves!

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