We've all been there. It's human to run out of steam. Anger, bitterness, jealousy, anxiety, sadness – they're all emotions given to us for a reason. Honor them, don't stuff them down. Let yourself feel them. When it's time to come out of it, here are three tips to help you find your smile again.
1. Get off social media. Many of your trgigers are here. Unplug and get more control over who gets into your head and your personal space.
You need to stop looking around and start looking in,
2. Create your happy place. Perhaps it's a day at the beach, or just a quiet parking space in the mall with your favorite CD and a cappucino. Schedule your daily or weekly happy place time. Give it top priority. Period. Consider it as important as a scheduled business meeting or a doctor's appointment. In this happy place you do what makes you happy. Light a candle. Read a deliciously good book.Paint something. Do something that you have a tendency to never do because it seems too luxurious. Note: Your happy place can not be in the carpool line to pick up your kids. Not allowed.
Don't wait for the happy moments to find you – create them.
3. Document your joys. Some call it a gratitude journal. Sounds sappy, but if you want to find your way back to joy, you need to look for it. It is a wonderful world, if you look.
Joy isn't something we wait to feel, it's something we choose to feel.
Kick Start Your Joy
To get you started, let me remind you of some truths that might have become blurry in your eyes:
- You are here for a reason. You matter. There is purpose to your life. I know the creator of the universe and He doesn't make junk.
- It's never too late to change your life. And believe it or not, you can change your life without ever changing your seat – by changing the way you see it.
- This will pass. Sometimes our problems feel like they will last forever. But most things pass with time. Even if the problem persists, your pain will start to fade. If you let it.
- Focus on what you can control and let the rest go. Worrying about what you can't fix will kill you and distract you from what you can fix.