Remember That Opportunity You Didn’t Get?

motivational speakers kelly swansonI was cleaning under my bed this morning and had two really deep thoughts. And, being a motivational speaker, of course I’m going to share them with you. Deep thought number one:  Twelve years of dust adds up to one really big dust bunny. This one had hair and teeth. I’m thinking of calling CSI.

And deep thought number two: Whatever happened to all those opportunities I didn’t get in my life? The missed ones.

Like the guy. You know the one. The one I was convinced I had to have. The one I was sure completed me. Turns out he didn’t share my vision. Thank you God! The one I got is so much better. This one gets me and helps me follow my dream. Now that I look back, the other guy didn’t even know I had a dream.

Or the job at the publishing company. I just knew that this job belonged to me. Turns out they didn’t agree. Now that I look back I realize that if I took that job, there is no way I would have taken the other opportunities that came shortly after and allowed me to have the awesome incredible life and career I have today.

Or the cheerleading team. I was convinced being popular would make me happy. Turns out that not being popular made me the comedian and all around happy person that I am.

Or the radio job that I was sure would  make me famous. Didn’t get it. Turns out my career launched anyway. And, in fact, I’m really really glad I didn’t go down that road. Now I can see what it would have kept me from doing.

And while I have been stressing for twelve years about cleaning under this bed – turns out that the world didn’t end because I went for twelve years. In fact, this time I think I’ll shoot for fifteen years.

So the point is this – what we see now is not what we will see later down the road. Many times we will look back on our lives to realize that the opportunity we wanted so badly was not really a smart move, or the best move, after all. Or maybe it was – we just no longer care that we didn’t get it. So while the pain of missed opportunities will sting now – trust that one day it might turn out to be a blessing.

I hope that, like me, you look back on those opportunities you missed – and realize you don’t miss them so much.

Now what about the opportunity I didn’t take? Ah. That’s a different conversation!

Now I’ve gotta run and mop the floors. The last time I mopped them bell bottoms were in.

Your wacky motivational speaker, trying not to miss the things that aren’t meant to be,

Kelly Swanson


Motivational Speaker Kelly Swanson - called one of North Carolina's funniest women by Our State Magazine. Kelly lifts the spirits of audiences from coast-to-coast using humor, storytelling, and lives of the characters from Prides Hollow - Kelly's make believe small town. This unique approach to motivational speaking allows Kelly to break through communications barriers and connect directly to the audience's imagination.
Her powerful stories and wacky wit will make you laugh, remind you that you matter, show you how to see beyond your obstacles, and teach you how to stand up and stick out in a crowded market.
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  1. Soooooo true, Kelly! Not that I used to be – but I am a firm believer NOW that the things that don’t turn out the way I just KNOW they are supposed to – are just a NFG (Nod from God) that something better is waiting or I’m being SAVED from something. For instance, I USED to get upset when, already late for an appointment, I couldn’t find my car keys. NOW I just take my time and keep looking, comfortable in the knowledge that if I had left 3 minutes earlier there just COULD have been some honker accident that I might be a part of. Hey, it’s a mind game and I love it. It keeps me relaxed and happy. It doesn’t keep me on time – but there you go…

  2. Unlike most people, Kelly doesn’t whistle while she works. Instead, as a motivational speaker, she shouts out self-affirming statements.

    BTW – there was so much hair from our dog who died 4 years ago that we were able to clone a new one.

  3. Kelly, reading your blog today led me to sitting back and considering what both you and Linda shared. It didn’t take long before I cast my eyes heavenwards and said “Thank you so much for not giving me what I asked for!” Funny thing… when I said “Thank you” and felt grateful, all of my day’s anxiety dissipated.


  4. Your post reminds me of the perspective my mom had on her life. With all the choices made, opportunities missed, the twists and turns of raising 4 kids and every moment in between it seems like a chaotic path when your in it. But when you look back over your shoulder you see your life actually turns out to be like a magnificent weaving of an oriental rug. Thanks mom! Thanks Kelly!

  5. Hey Kelly – what I love about your post is the message to be really grateful for what has happened to us as well as what has not happened to us. Being grateful is a great state to be in.

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