She who knows my habit of over-volunteering myself to dangerous levels. She who knows that I have a way of talking myself into doing things even when I know that I don’t have room in my life for them. She who knows my deep dark secret… that I am a (not so successfully) recovering people pleaser.
It is bright red with a button in the center.
When pushed, it says one of these things;
- Not ever!
- Absolutely Not!
- Nah-nah-nah-nah NO!
- N.O. No!
- No Way!
- No, No, No!
- Did you hear me? NO!
It is loud. It is rude. It is obnoxious. And it just may be saving my life.
This “NO button” is externally helping me do the thing I am unable to internalize. That sometimes the right thing to do is decline.
So now, when I am pushed, I push my “NO button” and it reminds me to send my regrets.
How do you harness your yes?