Perfection: I CanNOT Relate

We all want people to say “yes” to us. Give us what we are asking for. Accept our ideas and suggestions. And here’s what we know – they won’t do those things if they don’t like us.  AND – they probably won’t like us if they can’t, in some way, relate to us.  And FINALLY – they just can’t relate to us if we keep trying to push the perception out in the world that we are just too danged cool for school.

And while I certainly understand the desire to try and always put our best foot forward, what my experience has shown me is that it’s my foibles and flaws and fumbles that people can relate to MUCH better, than my stylishly coiffed hair or my perfectly behaved children or my exquisitely clean house (as if THAT could ever happen….)

The people I MOST admire, the ones I respect and listen to – the ones’s whose bus I want to ride on – are wonderfully human.  They are not afraid to show you their less than perfect parts.  And (and this is a really important part) they have made peace with their imperfection and can actually LAUGH at themselves!  I LOVE that! And I love THEM for revealing that they are just like me – they trip, fall, flounder and burp at the exact wrong times. And then they laugh. We all laugh. We laugh and we love them and we want to say yes to them.

So let’s start a “REVEAL YOURSELF” movement.  I’m inviting you to share one thing that you did that, under the old rules, you would want to hide from the world, but under our NEW rules, you want to reveal unabashedly.  And then let’s see if people can relate!  Bet they can!

My request is that you not only share something about yourself, but that you also comment on OTHERS’ posts if you can relate!

I’ll go first:  While I may want to project to the world that I am this intelligent, educated, erudite woman, the TRUTH IS – I got hooked on a television soap opera about a hundred years ago and consequently, am now a General Hospital Junkie. I actually had a small role on a now defunct soap opera (Another World) early in my acting career, and justified watching ALL soaps because, well, I was doing RESEARCH!  Okay, it’s 30 years later. I haven’t acted professionally in a decade – so what am I doing now exactly?  I say that I’m….um… “escaping”, “letting my brain go on a mindless vacation,” “chilling out.”  Oh the list goes on and on. Bottom line is: I love General Hospital and I’m going to keep on watching it while the latest and greatest business book I bought gathers dust on my shelf.  Ahhhhh.  Nice.

From your soap opera loving motivational speaker Linda Larsen, Have TiVo, Will Travel





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  1. Fun, revealing post! As a recovering perfectionist (who still needs major work!) I’ll share that after my company left Saturday night I ate another meal putting away the leftovers. It was tasty and I just couldn’t resist the party in my mouth. This after delivering 6, count ’em 6 Corporate Wellness Programs the past two months!

    Woke up feeling full (gee, wonder why?) so enjoyed the first hours of Sunday watching all my Housewives (New York, Jersey and OC finale) that had been DVR’d for the last 4 weeks. My oldest daughter joined me for the finale and we bonded, howled and rolled our eyes. It was a blast. My take action notes from the conference had to wait.

    Thanks for letting us reveal ourselves Linda and speak our truth.

    • Ah yes, Colette! So you just gave me permission to tell you that last Sunday after Church I went out to breakfast with 3 people and had a FABULOUS meal (omelette, toast & fruit) – and then proceeded to eat two blueberry pancakes that I ordered for “the table” – that apparently only I wanted.  What IS that, anyway?  Do I have some deep dark fear of starving?  Or could it be that I have no will power? Who knows. Anyway, thanks for letting me know I’m not alone in the “double meal” category!

  2. I guess I’m not alone with TV AND food!  I’m on a program where I eat certain healthy things all week, and then one night a week, I can have whatever I want.  Well, it was my birthday so Frenchie took me to a wonderful steak house and we enjoyed foie gras, steak, potatoes, wine, chocolate dessert, it was amazing!  Just like we planned, got back on track the next day.  Only, Frenchie had friends come from France….we went to an amazing French restaurant and suddenly I had fresh hot baguettes on my plate! Not one, not two, but three baguettes later, I was enjoying another feast of whatever I wanted.  It’s as if all that planning and being motivated for the last year went out the window.  I just couldn’t resist!  And, to add to your General Hospital and Real Housewives admission, I took my Saturday while Frenchie mowed the lawn to catch up on….yes, wait for it….Keeping up with the Kardashians!  I could rationalize it by saying I’m learning how to capitalize on a brand and make a fortune, but really, I’m watching to see if Kourtney will finally leave Scott!  Yikes – can’t believe I’m admitting this!  But, it’s speak your truth time, right???

    • Oh Wow, Marilyn!!!  that is fabulous!!!  Yay you!  And so while we are at it – I’ll just tell you that while my fresh new hot-off-the-press NYT best selling BUSINESS books gather dust on my shelf – I read ALL THREE books in the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy!!!  AND, while we are on the Kardashians….  I used to watch (Oh God I’ve blocked the title out of my mind) that Donald Trump “You’re Fired!” series.  HOOKED! Totally HOOKED!  And I am just here to tell you that I STILL hold that it was a sociology study in human behavior.  That’s my story and I am SO sticking to it!!!  

  3. Good grief. For me, doing something NORMAL would be the exception. I spend my life telling people my secrets. What’s left that the world doesn’t know?

    1.    I have four bottles of spray-on panty hose. Just in case they stop making them I know I’ll have access. Haven’t used them yet.  And am seriously thinking about buying another bottle. Just in case.

    2.  I speak on being authentic, and have eight pieces of fake hair glued into my head. And, yes, I am considering a ninth.

    3.  I have this fear that I am going to run out of gumballs so I keep buying a bag every time I go to the drugstore.

    4. I have to organize my M&M’s by color. Period. And I can’t ever just eat the peanut M&Ms, I have to put one in my left cheek like a squirrel, the other in my right cheek, and have one in the middle to suck on. By the time the chocolate is melted and I get to the salty peanut, the other two have melted into the middle. Exquisite. No exceptions to this rule.

    5.  When Bill’s out of town and I’m alone, I make sure I go to bed with my makeup on, just in case something happens – I know I’ll look good for the emergency crew. I guess you could say I’m actually dressing up for the guy who might break into my house and have his way with me.

    6. I actually think there are men out there waiting to have their way with me.  I’m convinced that when I go to the Big Lots, they are waiting in dark white vans to grab me and throw me in the back. And then my picture will show up on the evening news and nobody will recognize me because it doesn’t look like my headshot.         

    • Gosh Kelly, I don’t know what to say.  Hmmmm.  Well let me say this – YOU are exactly right.  You DO tell people your secrets.  And it’s why we all love you and can relate to you SOOOOOO strongly!  You unabashedly share your foibles, flaws and faults.  And it makes us all feel REALLY normal when we have things…um….I started to say “in common,” but that’s not quite right.  Let’s just say.. “similar.”  I’m still trying to wrap my brain around the M&Ms situation.  That’s pretty cool, actually…

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