Now I lay me down to sleep. My last thought is what will keep.

Now I lay me down to sleep. My last thought is what will keep.

As a motivational speaker I encourage people to hang on to the positive and release the negative. And yet, even as I’m telling you that, which one am I carrying? Yep. The negative.

I get so many affirmations that I have a gift and the gift is being well received. And then for every hundred affirmations, there will be that one. The one who hated me and everything I stood for. The one who thought I was too this, or too that.

And so when I lay my head on the pillow at night, I do not bring with me your kind compliments, I bring with me the person who told me I was a complete and utter waste of their time –the person who said I was too over the top – the one who said I was too preachy – the one who hated my humor – the one who found me too vague – and the one who found me too verbose.

And there I lie in my bed, listening to those people – the one out of a hundred. The ones who bring my self-esteem crashing down around my head – the ones who make me question my gift and its value to the world.

I’m not saying this so you will tell me how great you think I am. You’ve already done that. I’m afraid this one’s on me. This is my problem – how I’m choosing to create the belief system about myself. I must teach myself not to base my self-worth on the opinions of others – good or bad.

Yesterday I stared deep into the wrinkled eyes of a wise old woman who told me I had a gift. With tears in my eyes, I told her how much I needed to hear that, and I mentioned my weakness of hanging on to the negative. And she gave me this simple life-changing advice:

Never go to sleep at night with bad thoughts about yourself being your last thoughts. The last thing you tell yourself will fester in your self-conscious all night and become part of your belief system. Make sure that before you go to sleep, you say to yourself positive things about yourself. Tell yourself, “I am good. I have a gift. I matter. This means something to the world.”

Thank you wise woman who was put in my path at just the right moment. Thank you for this simple advice which is anything but.

Now I lay me down to sleep.
My last thought is what will keep.

Good night.


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  1. Ah well, I KNOW this isn’t just an issue FOR motivational speakers. or given BY them.  It’s a universal issue for everyone who is human.  And I don’t think that the most confident people among us are immune to this either.  So thank you for posting this, Kelly.  It’s good advice with a GREAT tool (her wise words).  Thank you!!!!!!!!!

  2. The woman who shared her advice is indeed a very wise woman. And so are you. Last week when I sent out my newsletter to over 4,000 people, an administrative professional took the time to go to my website, fill out my contact form and ask  if I sent it out with so many typographical and grammatical errors as a test to others. She said, “You’re better than that!” Truth be told, I did proof it — twice! I used “that” rather than “who” a couple of times, etc. I wrote back thanking her for her input, asking her to correct my errors to educate me which she did. And then I let it go. And then I let it go….again. And then later, I let it go…..again. The funny thing is when she wrote back there was a typo in her email. My youngest daughter wanted me to send it back highlighted with a snappy report such as, “Gee, looks like we’re all human!” I didn’t feel the need to make her wrong to feel right, so let it go.

  3. You let it go Colette! I just found a misprint on the back of my book! How funny is that! And I plan on leaving it! :)  Can’t wait for all the admins to come tell me about that. Love you Colette – despite your typos! :)

  4. Important message extraordinare (sp?) Kelly!!  I am going to tell my 2 sons about this one.  I used to roll my eyes when my mom would hand me articles with highlighted text she wanted me to read and guess what?  I’m turning into my mom with this one!  Thank you to that woman and thanks to you for fantastic advice!

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