I couldn't get him to see that what I was telling him would help him so much if he would just listen. It was a little thing he could do differently that would reap huge rewards for him. I guess I was trying to "motivate" him to make some changes – and, at that time in my life, I wasn't even a professional motivational speaker. But he wouldn't listen. I kept trying, but he wouldn't listen.
I was lamenting my situation to my friend, Alice, who gave me an extremely powerful perspective. She agreed that I clearly had a gift for him. And then she asked me what I would do if I had an actual gift, wrapped in a box with a bow, and I tried to hand it to someone who wouldn't accept it. She ask me, "Would you grab his hand and try to force him to take the box? Would you continue to push it toward him, demanding that he take it?" When I told her that I wouldn't, she asked me, "Well, what would you do?" And my answer surprised me.
"I would place the gift at his feet and say, 'Well, there it is if you want it.' And I wouldn't mention it again.
Wow. How often have I tried to MAKE someone take the gift of my extreme wisdom (picture me, gagging.) Seriously, just who do I think I am? And yes, my observations or suggestions might have value for someone, but if they don't want what I'm offering, then my job is to let it go. I gave them my "gift." They heard me. It's done.
So I am hereby offering you the gift of my opinion in this post. And I promise I will not mention THIS idea again.
Off to wrap a few more gifts.