Motivational Speaker’s Favorite Myth – All You Need is Love!

Ahhh relationships. Love… Happiness… Bliss…  GRINDINGLY HARD WORK….

Having a beautiful, loving, happy relationships without hard work is one of those fairy tales that I bought  – hook line & sinker.  I believed that “All you need is love!” So as a young lass I tiptoed through the tulips, found a cute guy who professed to love me and eventually said, “I do, do you? You do? Groovy.”

Well within what seemed like 20 minutes I realized that things weren’t so groovy and the BIG REALITY was that we needed more than love.  We needed to communicate.  But his belief was, “If you love someone enough, everything will work itself out.  You shouldn’t have to TALK about it, for crying out loud!!!”

Well here is the reality on that one. Relationships DON’T just work themselves out. They always have and always will involve compromise, negotiation, talking, more talking, shifting, changing, owning your “stuff”, letting go, trusting and on and on.

My first husband HATED talking about our relationship. So, in our life together, if something wasn’t working for me I had two options:

1.  I could repress my frustration and pretend like it didn’t bother me – which I knew would ultimately kill our relationship OR

2. I could continue to try and discuss the issues – which would aggravate him and DID ultimately lead to the demise of our relationship.

I am now married to a man who probably would also prefer that our relationship be so happy all the time that we never HAD to talk about anything.  But he’s wise enough to know – that isn’t realistic.  So we made an agreement:  When issues surface for either one of us, we promise to discuss them before they become too large to tackle.  This has been our practice now for over 16 years and it’s worked really well most of the time.

There are no guarantees that relationships will last a lifetime. But that doesn’t mean they can’t.  With a lot of work, a lot of play, and open loving communication, we can enjoy them fully and passionately.  We simply must refuse to buy in to the myths.

Groovy, right?

From your happily married motivational speaker, Linda Larsen

 

 

 

 

 

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Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
http://www.lindalarsen.com

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  1. So true Linda! And aren’t you wise to have chosen a communicator for Round Two in this wonderful, crazy, not always fun game called love. I find it doesn’t matter what program or subject we motivational speakers teach, it always circles back to healthy communication — with both yourself and others. Excellent post!

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