Motivational Speaker Says Speak or Die!

Stress-less-speaker-Colette-CarlsonSpeaking before a group of people, large or small, can be intimidating. You’d have to be living under a rock to not have heard about the survey showing that people were most fearful of 1) public speaking and 2) death. That’s right – people would rather die than speak in public! Although I’m sure if they were truly given the choice, they may change their mind. But the truth is, you will likely be called upon at some point in your career to get up in front of a group and speak, if only to introduce yourself. Rather than freak out with fear, reframe the situation to create a sense of calm.

As a motivational speaker who’s been blessed to be in this business, what I learned early on to alleviate anxiety is that it’s not about me – it’s about my audience. What do they need? How can I help them? Taking the focus off yourself and shifting the spotlight to your audience can go a long way in relieving the stress of speaking in public.

See FEAR differently:

F – Focus on your audience.

E – Early preparation. The more prepared you are, the less nervous you will be.

A – Affirm your success. Self talk can do wonders to psyche you up.

R – Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse—out loud!

Get up there, give your talk, and get on with it. Trust me, you’ll survive.

Do you have any tips to share?


Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. Wow! Very well said in a simple, clear and concise way, Colette!  I never thought about reducing it down to those 4 things but that does say it quite well (in this short little blog format we are given.)  GREAT!!!

  2. I agree with Linda!!!! Not much you can add that doesn’t already fit into the four you have mentioned. I would just add one note about fear. People think we (motivational speakers) don’t have a fear of speaking in public. That’s not true. To some degree, I always have fear. It’s just that I’ve learned to jump in spite of it. It’s not about who is more brave – it’s about who chooses to jump anyway. And the more you jump, the easer it gets! Great post Colette!

  3. Awesome post Colette.  I tell people all the time that if you’re nervous or afraid of how you’ll sound or how you’ll look, that’s ego talking.  Remind yourself of the value you add to your audience and focus on them and the impact you’ll have on them and it will help.  It’s all about re-focusing that nervous energy and believing in your message.  I love how you have simplified it too!  Great post!

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