I looked up from the kitchen sink and glanced out the window just as my husband approached the window from outside where he was working. He looked up, saw me in the window – and smiled. It wasn't a perfunctory smile – it was an "Oh it's YOU! The woman I LOVE" smile. He looked so happy, you wouldn't have believed that he had just seen me 15 minutes earlier when he'd come into the kitchen for some water.
Here's what happened next: I IMMEDIATELY smiled back at him. It wasn't conscious. I didn't "make" myself smile. I automatically, genuinely and immediately returned his smile.
And then (and this is the coolest part of all,) after my automatic smile, I instantly felt happy. I wasn't feeling particularly happy before he walked up to the outside of the window. I wasn't feeling UNhappy, but I would not have described myself as happy, either. I was just sort of doing life. But, oh, when he smiled at me, and I smiled back, my emotions kicked in almost simultaneously. And I felt great.
As a motivational speaker on how to be happy, I have trained myself to analyze experiences like this – so here's a few conclusions I've come up with for this "smile" phenomena.
- You will make people happy if you smile at them.
- You will make them think you like them.
- If they think you like them, they are more inclined to like you.
- If they like you they will want to do business with you, say yes to your ideas, and marry you and have your babies.
So don't just stand there (in the grocery line, the movie theater, the office break room) – SMILE! You might LOVE what happens next!