Motivational Speaker Discovers a Fast Track to Emotional Recovery

yay-green-flag-mdDisclaimer: As I said in the title – I am a motivational speaker – NOT a psychologist. 

Okay, now that we have that out of the way. My good friend and workout buddy, the AMAZING KT Curran, asked me this morning as we did our treadmill walk at the gym, "Do you have a strategy for regaining emotional equlibrium when something goes wrong?" As a mentor and someone who works a lot with kids (she's the director of the nationally acclaimed, award winning Source Theater) , she is on the constant lookout for ways to help them be more in control of their lives. And it wasn't until she asked me that question that I realized, I actually DO! It's a 2 step process.

1. I give myself "X" period of time to feel what I'm feeling. I do not ACT on these feelings. I just give myself permission to feel them. And "X" period of time is NO longer than it absolutely has to be.

2. I put this event on my Tragedy Scale.  I see where it scores in relation to the real tragedies that have occured in my life – or the ones that certainly COULD happen. OR – ones that have happened to other people that I know about.  Many times it doesn't even register on the "Tragedy Scale."  Frequently, just puttting it on this scale can totally END my "X" period of time.

In the past when something unsettling would happen in my life my FIRST step was to find someone to blame. Second step was to feel sorry for myself. Third step was to get angry. Fourth step was to get physically sick because I was carrying around all those negative emotions. You can see what a lovely strategy THIS one was!

So this new little two step plan does take practice until it becomes an automatice habit, but once it does, you will be really happy!  Because the bottom line is that YOU chose what emotional state you wanted to live in! YOU chose it!  Yay you!

 

About

Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
http://www.lindalarsen.com

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Comments

  1. Love it! Brilliant! And easy to put into practice. I'm sharing it right now. And who says motivational speakers can't compete with the therapists! :)

  2. Simple and effective to gain perspective!

  3. Yay YOU!  YES!  Feel it and deal it. Linda, I love how you point out that most of the time these emotional flare-ups don't even register on the scale.  And identifying what your "used to be” strategy was, is a great way to celebrate how powerful it can be to allow ourselves to let go! 

  4. Thank you for a 2-step process!  Your advice is doable and puts us in charge of our own emotional-health outcome.  KT sure knows the right motivational speaker to ask!

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