Larsen’s Words that Work: “You have plenty of room…”

While it would be more effective if people would be clear and truthful in their communication, the fact is that there are people you know who might say “yes” to a request of yours when they would prefer to say “no.”  And you and I know what complications can ensue when that happens.  Resentment, frustration, substandard effort…

If you suspect a person might have a hard time saying “no” to you, try using this phrase:  “I have a request, Bob, and I need you to know that you have plenty of room to decline.”

It could open the door just enough for a person to actually, well, be truthful with you!

And here’s an important part:  Pay attention to their non-verbal communication.  Do they APPEAR hesistant?  If you see anything that looks like they are reluctant to tell you the truth, then say something like, “Hold on, Bob, I may be wrong, but I get the feeling that you have some reservation. I am very sincere when I say that you have plenty of room to decline my request.”

I would rather get a “no” to my request, and preserve our relationship, than to get a “yes” and compromise it.

From your Motivational Speaker, Linda Larsen, always looking for a better way to say it



Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700

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  1. I love this phraseology! I too would much rather get a no than to ruin a relationship.  I’ve never heard it quite the way you are putting it and it’s great and I can’t wait to use it!

  2. So many fantastic words and phrases that you are deciphering for us Linda!  Thank you!  I think I’m going to keep a little notepad of Linda-isms and learn them as my second language to help thwart dementia!

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