Larsen’s Words That Don’t Work: “You ALWAYS Do That!”

I watched his response when she said it.  She was referring to the fact that he parked his car a little too close to hers in the garage, but from his response, you would have thought she said, “You have green slime pouring out of your ears today.”

And why did he respond like that?  Because he took her words literally.  And clearly, he does not ALWAYS park his car too close to her.  He just kept responding (with acute agitation and defensiveness, I might add), “I do not.”

I watched the issue change before my very eyes.  It no longer was about whether or not he parked in a bad place, but how SHE was exaggerating and picky and WRONG!

Be very, very careful when you ask someone to change a behavior they are engaging in that doesn’t work for you.  Be clear, be specific and, by all means, be accurate.

From your resident motivational speaker, Linda Larsen

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Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
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  1. This motivational speaker mama taught her kiddies this early when fighting with each other. “Daughter #1, you are rarely (had to refrain from saying never…..the opposite of the always issue) going to persuade your sister to see your side of things when you speak in absolutes. She’s a born debater (once had a friend say she’ll make a great ex-wife!), so you must choose your words carefully.” Helped with the drama….a little.

  2. Those words of  “absolutes”  (never, always) are rarely a good way to go because the other party will instantly debate that claim.  Good observation, Linda!

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