Just Be Yourself? – I Don’t THINK So!

Okay, before all my friends, family and readers gather up arms and have me run out of town on a rail, let me explain what I mean.

We hear all the time, “Just be yourself,” and/or from OUR perspective, things like, “That’s just not ME!” or “That doesn’t FEEL right to me,” or “that’s not WHO I am.”  And while I’m all about authenticity, listening to the little bossman inside my head, and truthfully showing up in the world, I am even MORE about not just “being me,” but being the “VERY BEST VERSION of  me.”  And here’s where the rubber meets the road.

Haven’t we ALL known someone who demonstrates some less than flattering behavior (let’s say, losing their temper) and then explains it by saying, “Well, that’s just who I am. It’s how I’m wired.”  Maybe you know someone who takes umbrage at the slightest provocation, who continually gets their feelings hurt by things people say, don’t say, do or don’t do (I call these people a “walking possibility of being offended.”)  And when you suggest they “took it personally” they respond with, “Well that’s just the way I am.”

Let’s give the world, and ourselves, a break.  I suggest we all just take a quick inventory.  What habits, behaviors, proclivities do you engage in that don’t serve you?  Things you have written off with, “Well, I’m just being myself.”  What are they?  Why not start working on those things, deliberately, consciously and consistently.

Now then, would someone please share this blog with that person who lets various forms of gas escape his/her body – and then rationalizes it with, “Hey! That’s a natural thing! People DO this! It’s just who I am!”


From your motivational speaker, Linda Larsen, who has someone in mind…


Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700

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  1. Wow. I needed to hear that perspective! Thank you! Especially since I’m a motivational speaker who tells people to embrace who they are! I need to rephrase that for sure! You are right. Being authentic doesn’t give you the right to be rude. Thanks for the insight Linda!

  2. Loved this, Linda. Made me laugh too as I have worked on some of these “just being me” traits and have more to go. Can still remember back when I used to believe in astrology and knew I was a Taurus (yes, the Bull!). I would say to myself, “Well, I’m just stubborn. I’m a Taurus.” When I started the never-ending long journey of working on my never-ending “stuff” I changed my tune. Instead of saying, “Well, I’m just stubborn, I’m a Taurus” I started to say, “Since I’m a stubborn Taurus I need to work even harder at letting go of something more quickly.” Thanks for the beautiful reminder we can all rewire.

  3. Who we were yesterday doesn’t mean we have to be that today.  I love posts about accountability! Thanks Linda!

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