It’s NEVER My Fault

I LOVE my job!  As a motivational speaker, I not only get to travel to some of the bigger, well known conference cities like Las Vegas, New Orleans and Washington DC, but I also get to see some of the smaller, less frequented cities that I would probably never be able to visit.  And such was the case when I found myself on one of those small planes with about 30 seats, headed toward a smaller airport in Missouri.

I stowed my bag and nestled in my oh-so-tiny seat while the rest of the passengers filed in.  I looked up just as a somewhat tall man and his young son walked in through the boarding door and started the walk down the very narrow aisle.  Just as the dad stepped onto the plane and turned to walk down the aisle, he bumped his head on the ceiling of the plane, at which point he exclaimed, “ouch!”  His son said to him, “Dad, why did you bump your head?” To which the man replied, “Because the ceiling’s too short.”

Huh? The ceiling’s too short? How about, “Because I didn’t bend down when I walked in.”

I wondered what message this was sending to his son. Wasn’t it basically that when something goes wrong, you should look around and find some thing – or some one out there to blame?

And here’s the really scary part. I believe that sometimes, with situations not quite so clear cut as this one, I might do exactly the same thing – look for someone to blame. I hope I don’t – but I’ll just bet there are times when I feel justified thinking, “Well, it wasn’t MY fault!!”

I’ll leave you with the words of the brilliant Stephen Covey:  Anytime you think the problem is out there – that thought is the problem.


From your traveling motivational speaker, Linda Larsen, looking for lessons along the way



Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700

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  1. Ah, yes, the brilliant Stephen Covey who had incredible ways to communicate the truth. Just as you do, Linda. You got me thinking about the time recently when I tripped walking down the street sober. My first thought was, “Geez, nothing like a big chunk out of the sidewalk to trip someone up!” You just made me realize that the biggest reason I tripped is because I wasn’t paying attention. Probably too busy doing something….checking a text, looking in a store-front window or simply thinking about where I needed to be. Where I really needed to be was in the now and taking responsibility for my actions.

  2. I couldn’t agree with you more Linda! We live in a society where people are consumed with justice and the need for someone to blame and pay for what has happened to them. I’m watching personal responsibility fade away. Our life is a series of choices. Like it or not, we are where we are because of the choices we made. Sure, much of what happened was beyond our control. But just because it happened doesn’t always mean someone else should pay for it.  The sooner we grab hold of our power to move on, and the faster we can let go of anger and the need for payback, the more we live in peace. And, yes, I am the first one who needed to hear this!!!!

  3. This is a great topic.  When Frenchie blames something on someone or something else, I tell him that he must have gone to the ‘Male School of Accountability’. It’s my little dig about how men seem to blame others more than women do.   Now when he observes me not taking responsibility and blaming something outside of myself, he says “So you are the dean of the Male School of Accountability?!!”  It’s our fun way of reminding each other to be accountable for what happens to us.  

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