It’s Just Information

After taking several standing photos of me from different angles, my physical therapist showed them to me and began to point out where I was out of alignment.  He showed me how my feet turned out a bit, my shoulders rolled forward somewhat, my hips were not quite level, my head thrust forward, etc.

I was mortified.  I thought about how many times as a motivational speaker, I stand up there on that stage with those huge IMAG screens capturing every nuance of my flawed self. I said something like, “Oh good heavens!  I’m a mess!!”

His response was perfect.  He looked at me and calmly, with no emotion whatsoever said, “Linda.  It’s just information.  With it we can fix things.  Without it we can’t.”

Wow.  How many times have you reviewed your performance, replayed your actions or actually watched yourself on video and then beat yourself up unmercifully for every ineffective move?   Next time I encourage you to do the following:

  1.  Simply notice your knee jerk tendency to be horrified.
  2. Make a conscious choice to detach from the information emotionally
  3. Tell yourself, “It’s just information”
  4. Decide what you would like to do differently next time

Ahhhh.  Much better.

From Linda Larsen, your motivational speaker giving you “just information”

 

 

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Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
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  1. I LOVE this post Linda. You have helped me put my self worth back into alignment.  

    I try to use this same philosophy when I coach speakers – explaining that what I say about their work is just about a set of words – not about them as a person or speaker.  Next time I will use this therapist’s line: it is only information. Separate yourself from the information.

    And on another note – while it will make you feel better to get your body in alignment – I’m not sure you can link it to your audience’s enjoyment of your work. In fact, the more perfectly postured a speaker, the more I start to disconnect. Weird, I know. But they start becoming unreal to me – more TV like – more canned – more technical. I connect better to the one who leans up against the podium, sits down in a chair, etc. Again – I’m not knocking the benefits of good posture – and I do believe you make a better impression if you stand up straight. I’m just playing the devil’s advocate – and pointing out that when you speak your posture is the last thing on my mind   – even on a subconscious level. Then again – how do I know? :)
     

    • Right, good thoughts Kelly.  And I’m not actually linking it to my audiences’ enjoyment of my work.  I didn’t mean to suggest that.  It isn’t about my posture on stage or my speaking. It’s about having a back pain issue and beginning to understand the way my body is misaligned and actually helps perpetuate my pain.
      But in terms of your comments about coaching speakers – right on!

        

  2. Would you believe in my yoga class yesterday the teacher kept reminding us to listen to the information our bodies were giving us?  And it was so true, my left hip was very clear in communicating how much higher it  was hitched and my left shoulder had something to inform me of its restricted rotation.  I found myself at first critical of those imbalances and then I turned it around and became more accepting of the information and what I can do about it.  Neat, huh?  Your advice reinforces a better way of thinking.  Thank you!

  3. So appreciate this, Linda! As I stepped on the scale today I’m saying to myself, “It’s just information!” And what to do differently? Stay off the scale :-). Just kiddin…..this motivational speaker needs to eat less and move more.

    • Ha ha ha, Colette.  I get it!  There’s some very loud “information” I would prefer not to get sometimes too!  And how funny, a lot of it comes from MY scale!  Damn those scales. THEY are the problem!!!  

  4. This is a great post Linda!  When I speak about dealing with difficult people, I often tell them to divest themselves emotionally before going off on someone – and gather more information.  I love what you said about ‘it’s just information’.  No judgement attached there!  So simple.  Thanks for posting.

  5. So when I look at the reading on the scale, the items on my grocery bill, the print-out of how often I’ve been to the gym recently… it’s all just information. Hmmmm… I like that way of looking at this set of data A LOT! Seems like when I look at it as just information (vs “Oh crikey” and the unproductive mood and narrative that can accompany that) I have more options. Thanks for more options Linda!

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