It’s easier to ask for what you want when you let go of self-doubt

I love a good blog post inspiring people to let go of self-doubt and ask for what you want. This is a great blog I found on LinkedIn and wanted to share. She mentions the importance of letting go of self-doubt, because that's what keeps people from asking for what they want.  Well, I want to add how you do that.

I suggest letting go of the attachment you have to the opinion of negative people who don't add value to any critique they may have. What I mean by that, sometimes we get negative feedback from people with no encouraging words to go with it. We could dwell on it and allow that negativity to feed our self-doubt. It's sad, but not everyone is good at giving feedback with grace like my good friend and communications expert Colette Carlson.  So, before you attach 100% truth to the negativity of others, do some soul searching to see if there is a grain of truth and look at it – then move on.  I know it's hard to do because it's so tempting to wallow in negativity brought on by others. But, if you attach too much to the opinion of negative people, that feeds your self-doubt. And, if you're not careful, it will suck the life out of your dreams!  
 

So the blog below is about asking for what you want. I just wanted to add to HOW you let go of the self-doubt so you can more confidently raise your hand and lean in.

http://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20130530172331-34334392-are-the-biggest-roadblocks-to-women-s-career-success-our-own

From your trying to deal with negative feedback with grace motivational speaker, Marilyn Sherman

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Marilyn Sherman, CSP is a Front-Row Leadership Expert helping people get out of the balcony and get a front-row seat in life. For over 20 years she has inspired audiences with topics on Visioning, Goal Achievement and having a No More Excuses attitude! Check out her fun, dynamic style at http://www.MarilynSherman.com

Marilyn Sherman, Owner UpFront Presentations - Helping people get a Front-Row seat in their life!
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  1. Amen sister! What awesome advice. And while I'm thinking about it, Marilyn, I have never received anything but positive feedback and grace and encouragement from you. Wow. What a good friend you are. I wish I could say the same about myself. I tend to speak without thinking, and sometimes not realizing how my words might be received. But I have no doubt that hanging around you ladies has helped me tremendously!!!!! 

    • Kelly – even when you speak without thinking, you always speak from the heart and I know your intention is always good!  Thanks for being in my corner.  I really value you and the rest of my fellow bloggers!  

  2. "Support and information" for letting go of self-doubt is right here at Motivational Speakers Review!  Thank you, Marilyn, for helping with the implementation of how to move forward!

  3. Wow, Marilyn, what a beautiful surprise to see what you wrote. Thank you. I'd like to add that you receive feedback remarkably well, which makes me feel comfortable sharing. And you know I'm the queen of asking, yet at times I still stop myself from asking for what I need to be successful. A client will come up all excited following a presentation and I'll think, "Ask her for a video testimonial!" And then I hear my voice say, "Oh, don't bug her. She's had a full day, and that's the last thing she'd want to do right now." So, great reminder not to talk myself out of what I know would help me grow my career.

  4. GREAT advice, Marilyn! And as motivational speakers we are definitely going to get some negative feedback from people who are not as brilliant at is as you are – or the amazing Colette Carlson. In fact, I don't think I've ever heard you give anything but positive feedback about anything! Ever! And, Colette, I have experienced that same exact thing about asking for testimonials. I'm getting better at it, but I need to employ Marilyn's advice and let go of that little nagging voice.  

  5. Self-doubt? Is that YOU in my head again?!?   Sheesh, I thought I left you on the corner at the last stop.  Ok, well if I can't lose you completely on my life's journey, then at least I am going to listen to my friend Marilyn and make sure I find some positive things to balance out all the negative baggage you are bringing on this trip.   So THERE!

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