Is This a Call to Action?

call-to-action-motivational-speaker-Linda-Larsen"I've looked everywhere and can't find my sunglasses." John said as he walked past my desk.

I stood up to start looking with him, when suddenly it occured to me – he didn't ask me to help him. I had been in the middle of working on taxes and had stopped everything to go help him look for his glasses. Yes, I love my husband and yes, I would help him if he asked me to.  But I began to wonder, how many times do I do this? And the more I thought about it – the more I realized – I do it a LOT!  

Do you? When someone you work or live with makes a STATEMENT, not a request, do you jump up to help? 

Assuming that it is not your mutually agreed upon JOB to do something, let's rewrite a few possible scenarios: 

Coworker: "The copy machine needs paper."
You: (while continuing to work) "Really?"

Teenage daughter: "I'm out of clean shirts."
You: "That must be frustrating for you."

Husband: "I sure would like some ice cream."
You: "That does sound good."

Get the picture? If you want to help and have time to help – then great. Do it. You could also say to the person, "Are you asking for my help?"  That's fine too. But I encourage you to resist the urge to automatically jump up and fix the problem.

Remember, a statement is not a call to action. 

From your motivational speaker Linda Larsen, still resisting the urge to go look for his glasses
 

About

Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
http://www.lindalarsen.com

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Comments

  1. So true! I've become quite good at only responding if I'm requested too!

  2. Oh, so that's my problem!  I'm so easily distracted, and when there is an opportunity to help out?  Yay!  Next time, I'll wait until asked. Thanks Linda!

  3. Wow, so true!  Just now David made a statement about how hungry he was.  Since I am at work commenting on these fabulous blogs by you fabulous motivational speakers, I just called out what was available and resisted the urge to do my food preparation thing!  Thanks for the affirmation.

  4. Linda, what a great statement! This is how too many of us women end up doing too much and then getting bitter. Bravo. As a woman who is passionate about getting others to ask clearly and directly for what they want, I applaud your clarity from both sides. If you want,ASK. If it's not a request, don't feel compelled to jump. Especially considering I'm the one at times processing out loud, "Where's my airline ticket?" Not even wanting help – just can't keep my mouth shut some times when thinking!

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