Do you find yourself saying, I’m sorry for situations outside your control? For example, apologizing to your colleague when you both grab for the same board room chair or telling your child you’re sorry their game was cancelled due to rain.
Do you find yourself saying, I’m sorry for an inability to do the impossible such as attend two events scheduled at the same time?
I’ve even heard two women say, I’m sorry, can you bring us menus? after finally getting an inattentive server’s attention.
Listen, I get it. In an effort to be polite, many women, including this motivational speaker at times, default to I’m sorry. Not only is it a speech crutch, but it’s also a way of showing concern or keeping the balance in a relationship, which many women prefer.
But, here’s the rub. Sorry implies fault, and if used too often makes you sound less professional.
Instead, speak your truth. Rather than I’m sorry, say excuse me when appropriate. Instead of apologizing over your inability to control Mother Nature, say, I get disappointed, too, when plans change due to weather. Want to show empathy? I can’t even imagine how you must feel given the circumstances. What can I do to support you through this? Want to show your desire to be present? I wish I could be in two places at once to attend your event as well.
By saving your sorry’s for heartfelt and necessary apologies, your words will hold more power and have greater impact.