I’m Sorry. NOT!

Motivational SpeakersDo you find yourself saying, I’m sorry for situations outside your control? For example, apologizing to your colleague when you both grab for the same board room chair or telling your child you’re sorry their game was cancelled due to rain.

Do you find yourself saying, I’m sorry for an inability to do the impossible such as attend two events scheduled at the same time?

I’ve even heard two women say, I’m sorry, can you bring us menus? after finally getting an inattentive server’s attention.

Listen, I get it. In an effort to be polite, many women, including this motivational speaker at times, default to I’m sorry. Not only is it a speech crutch, but it’s also a way of showing concern or keeping the balance in a relationship, which many women prefer.

But, here’s the rub. Sorry implies fault, and if used too often makes you sound less professional.

Instead, speak your truth. Rather than I’m sorry, say excuse me when appropriate. Instead of apologizing over your inability to control Mother Nature, say, I get disappointed, too, when plans change due to weather. Want to show empathy? I can’t even imagine how you must feel given the circumstances. What can I do to support you through this? Want to show your desire to be present? I wish I could be in two places at once to attend your event as well.

By saving your sorry’s for heartfelt and necessary apologies, your words will hold more power and have greater impact.


Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at http://www.ColetteCarlson.com or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. Oh yes oh yes, Colette! This is one of those habitual behaviors that many women learn early on and don't even think consciously about. I know, I do it sometimes. The only good news is that I actually do hear myself do it. At least I'm aware of it. And awareness is the first step to a better choice. Thanks for shining a light on this one!

  2. I love your alternatives to "I'm sorry", Colette!  And isn't it true that when those words pop out and you immediately know that you didn't need to use them you get really frustrated with yourself?  I do! Great post to share with my friends and their daughters!

  3. I come from a long line of southern women who have mastered the art of apologizing for everything. Thank you for helping me break the cycle.  You are right. We shouldn't apologize for what we didn't do – nor should we apologize for what our family members do – nor should we apologize for what our ancestors did.

  4. Guilty of being an "I'm Sorry" multiple offender – I truly appreciate this call to action Colette

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