HUGE Secret to Save Yourself Pain Down the Road

motivational_speaker_linda_larsen_rays2I have a brilliant son. Okay, I know, I'm a mom and all moms think that about their children. AND, I do have a brilliant son. And once again, he taught me something during our conversation on the one hour road trip to the baseball game last night (go Rays!)

One of my biggest areas of focus as a motivational speaker is communication. I'm crystal clear that the quality of our communication affects every single aspect of our lives. And I'm also clear that never being allowed (or never giving yourself permission) to express your thoughts and feelings compromises your health, your relationships, professional aspirations and overall happiness in life. But last night Miles gave me another distinction that I hadn't really thought about.

I was talking about this friend of mine who had gotten rather cantankerous as he got older. Having been known most of his life as someone who was very pleasant, easy-going and agreeable, in his last years he got snappy, cranky and rather negative.  And then Miles hit me with a blast of insight.

"Mom, it takes a LOT of energy to repress feelings. It's exhausting. And sometimes, when people get older, they just don't have the strength any more. They simply can't push down those feelings they have repressed for so many years. They just come pouring out. And, by that time, they're also really pissed off."

POOSH!

My brain opened up. This was yet one more reason why speaking up early on, when you can do it calmly and without blame and anger, is a very, very healthy thing to do.  You develop a lifelong habit of saying what you need to say, speaking up for yourself, of being honest and straight, WITH RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND THE OTHER PERSON – that will serve you very well in old age!!!  You are developing a muscle that will be strong for you in later years.  You won't be that cranky, mean lady down the street who snaps at kids when they come to the door selling magazine subscriptions. People will LOVE you. They will want to be around you. They'll erect a statue to you in the town square! 

Save yourself some pain down the road. Express yourself now. 

 

 

About

Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
http://www.lindalarsen.com

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Comments

  1. That's one smart son of yours!  I never would have thought about the energy it takes to suppress stuff.  Time for the Truth Booth as our friend Colette says!

  2. Shout out to you, Linda, and all motivational speakers that encourage others to speak your truth!

  3. What a coincidence! I just wrote a blog post (http://kellyswanson.net/arent-reason-miserable/) on choosing not to be miserable. Thanks for pointing out (wish I had read this first) that it's okay to express the feeling before you let it go. But it is key to let it go!

  4. So wise – and brilliant – your son!  Love this Linda – now I am going to go out and start expressing myself.  I have a lot of sharing to do in order to get that statue erected : ) 

  5. Wonderful advice from your son. Makes me wonder how he uses his wisdom in the world. What he does for a living….

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