As a motivational speaker, I'm never late on the job. AV check times, start times, arrival times – I'm early. But in my civilian life – well, that's another story. It seems like I never allow myself quite enough time so I end up rushing around like a bit of a crazy person. And this morning was no exception.
I COULD have made my appointment on time if every traffic light was working in my favor, but of course, they were not. So as I saw yet one more light turn red just as I approached it, I heard some bad words coming out of my mouth. I clentched my jaw, felt the muscles in my neck tense up and cursed the traffic light programmers for singling me out.
It was in that moment (thank God) that I noticed what I was doing to myself and I stopped. I took a deep breath and said to myself the following words:
"Okay, Linda, you will get there when you get there. Relax. You will get there when you get there."
I repeated that little phrase three or four times and, sure enough, I calmed down rather quickly. I actually felt myself relax and unclench my teeth. I arrived at my destination three minutes late (not exactly the end of the world), and hereby vow to leave earlier next time.
And all this reminds me of a fact that I have long known. If you talk yourself INTO a stressed out place – you can talk yourself OUT of it.