How to Calm Yourself Down Immediately

Happy driverAs a motivational speaker, I'm never late on the job. AV check times, start times, arrival times – I'm early. But in my civilian life – well, that's another story.  It seems like I never allow myself quite enough time so I end up rushing around like a bit of a crazy person. And this morning was no exception.

I COULD have made my appointment on time if every traffic light was working in my favor, but of course, they were not.  So as I saw yet one more light turn red just as I approached it, I heard some bad words coming out of my mouth. I clentched my jaw, felt the muscles in my neck tense up and cursed the traffic light programmers for singling me out. 

It was in that moment (thank God) that I noticed what I was doing to myself and I stopped. I took a deep breath and said to myself the following words:

"Okay, Linda, you will get there when you get there. Relax. You will get there when you get there." 

I repeated that little phrase three or four times and, sure enough, I calmed down rather quickly. I actually felt myself relax and unclench my teeth. I arrived at my destination three minutes late (not exactly the end of the world), and hereby vow to leave earlier next time.

And all this reminds me of a fact that I have long known. If you talk yourself INTO a stressed out place – you can talk yourself OUT of it.   

Ahhhhh. Happiness.




Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700

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  1. So true. So true. I have been there so many times. And I find myself being angry at someone else when I should really be angry at myself. A lack of planning on my part does not constitute an emergency on theirs. And you are right, we can easily calm ourselves down in seconds. Thanks for the reminder!

  2. Boy have I had to have that same conversation with myself — often on the way to the airport! No truer words were ever spoken. Beautiful reminder.

  3. When I'm running late on the road my mantra is, "There's nothing I can do about it now, just drive safely."  Of course it's the getting out of the house on time routine that we've got to master!  Woa, look at the time!  I've got to shut this computer down and start getting ready!!

  4. What a perfectly brilliant little mantra!  Thank you Linda, for giving me some words to use when I (too often for my liking) find myself in this exact situation.   It usually involves being behind the wheel, but often I find myself getting worked up on a subway platform waiting for a very late NYC train,  silently and colorfully expressing my stress to the entire Metropolitan Transportation Authority.  I will now use your mantra to help myself walk my motivational speaker walk, and to live longer!  

  5. Another great example of letting go of what we can't control – I mean once we have left late and not prepared for the inevitable red lights – why do we always hit all the red lights when we leave late?  I need that mantra – especially as we inch our way towards the holidays with family!!

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