Perhaps you’ve seen funny videos of people walking into pools, walls or traffic while texting. I’ll have to admit I’ve walked into the men’s bathroom twice in one week at different airports, so my latest antic shouldn’t surprise anyone – including me!
Here’s what happened. While hurriedly walking to my car following a gym workout, I heard the harp ringtone alerting me of a text from my oldest daughter. This is the same daughter who faithfully calls once a week from college, but rarely texts — unlike her younger sister, who provides almost daily campus updates. I immediately turned my focus to her text to reassure myself she was not in a burning building. I was simultaneously unlocking my car and climbing in when suddenly I heard a loud, gruff, “HEY LADY!”
Yes, this motivational speaking mother who is always telling her children to “dial-in” almost took her sweaty, tired old body and plopped it on top of a young man who was sitting in HIS car. Now I know I’m always encouraging others to build relationships, but this is not what I have in mind. I’m also teaching others to be in the now, to stop multi-tasking and start multi-asking for what you need to be successful. I’m encouraging others to speak your truth – to align your thoughts, words and actions, and in this moment, my truth was I’m a big fat hypocrite!
Not only did I not notice that this young man was even in the car, but my own car was in a completely different location.
I’m well aware of the research that shows how multi-tasking is ineffective. I’m well aware of the research that shows how being mindful creates less stress and more balance. BUT obviously being aware (like when I’m aware I’m eating too much chocolate as I reach for the next piece) isn’t enough. It’s all about the action we take on our awareness.
So, what am I saying? It’s time for me to walk my talk. I’m flying out tonight, and I’m committed to finding the women’s restroom.