I hear it once in awhile. "I'm having a bad day!" Or, "It's going to be one of THOSE days!" As a motivational speaker, I avoid that kind of language that prohibits me from having a great day. I've trained myself to really focus on the positive. I like to tell my audiences one of my favorite quotes: There is no such thing as a bad day, only bad moments that people choose to nurse all day long! But it happens – it's as if people like to nurse their bad moments all day and they have to tell everyone! Anytime I hear someone complaining, my mind always thinks, well it could always be worse…
Don't like your job? At least you have a job.
Don't like the size of your thighs? Tell that to someone in a wheelchair.
Having a bad hair day? I know some people who dream of having hair!
But, let's say that you are not off to a good start (overslept, spilled your coffee on your favorite blouse, got cut-off in traffic) – this stuff happens. Instead of declaring that it is in fact going to be one of those days, change your language and change your perspective. Admit your challenges by saying 'I'm having a bad moment!’ What I love about this is, as soon as you say it, the moment is gone! No need to nurse it anymore. Then, you can look around and take stock about what’s right about your situation. What DO you like about your job? What CAN you do to have firmer thighs? Realize you are more than what you look like on the outside.
In one of my keynote presentations, I talk about getting a front-row seat in life. The premise is that if you don't like your seat, then move. But what about the more difficult chairs people are in where they can't readily move their chair? (For now, maybe they're stuck in a job, a relationship or situation). I suggest changing your perspective about the chair that you are in. Stay positive, stop saying you’re having a bad day, and take another look at all the things to be grateful for.
After all, it's not where you sit but what you see when you sit there.
From your perspective-shifter-motivational-speaker, Marilyn Sherman