Happy? Think of other people’s perspective too

I have to be very careful. To borrow a line from my fellow motivational speaker Kelly Swanson, I am more happy than crappy.  Isn't it all a matter of perspective?  You know, it could always be worse, so be happy, right? Well, I have to be careful.  Not everyone has what we have.  I'm so used to helping people put things in perspective, knowing that when you shift your perspective you shift your mood. People who look at the positive are so much more productive and people like being around them and doing business with them.  Recently, I slipped into 'motivational speaker' mode when I had an encounter at Catholic Charities.  Yves and I like to volunteer our time on Friday's at their soup line.  It's very organized, served cafeteria style, with long tables for people to sit and eat meals consisting of pastries, fruit, rice or beans, hot dogs or on this day, roasted chicken.  They told me roasted chicken is a big day for the homeless!  

As I greeted each person with a perky smile and welcome as I handed them napkins and utensils, one person said "I wish I was as happy as you."  I didn't even think twice – just as a habit – I responded with 'You can! You have a roof over your head, a hot meal'…  

Then it hit me, this young man was homeless.  He in fact did not have a roof over his head.  I told Yves on the way home how much that affected me and he gave me an idea that would be perfect if in fact I see this person again or if a similar situation comes up again.  I can look at them and tell them that they in fact have made my day.  It's true – just seeing the faces of the people makes my day.  So next time,  I need to be more sensitive to helping someone shift their perspective by first being aware of what their perspective might be. 

From your grateful to continue to learn lessons from others, motivational speaker, Marilyn Sherman

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Marilyn Sherman, CSP is a Front-Row Leadership Expert helping people get out of the balcony and get a front-row seat in life. For over 20 years she has inspired audiences with topics on Visioning, Goal Achievement and having a No More Excuses attitude! Check out her fun, dynamic style at http://www.MarilynSherman.com

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  1. So true, Marilyn. I am guilty of this as a motivating speaker. I, too, tend to deliver short pat answers that are much easier said than done. And it would always serve me better – and serve them better – if I stop before I speak and really think about life from their perspective. Maybe I would deliver the truth in a more gentle humble manner. That being said – often these universal truths are truths because they are true – they stand the test of time. And while it may be hard to get there, it is always true that you don't have control over many things in your life, but you always have control over how you receive it and internalize it and act on it. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Oh Marilyn, this is really very spot on. How easy it is for us Happy Motivational Speaker Types to blast through life without really going deep into the reality of what life may be like for other people.  I needed to be reminded that while it is fabulous that I am positive, upbeat and always tend to look for the up side behind every adversity, some people have experiences and realities that I will never come close to understanding. Thank you!

  3. Just so enjoy this blog and keeping up with everyone's lives and moments of awareness. Yes, everything you, Kelly and Linda said is truth. Yet, sometimes (minus the roof comment) I know it was the tough love, the truth, that got me to wake up to the fact that I had choices. Thank you for giving your time and energy once again.

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