My friend Sue is one of those women who appears to be fearless. Well, that’s what it looked like at first glance. What I later learned, as I grew to know her better, was that she was just as afraid as I was to try some new, daring, risky thing. And actually, she was probably more afraid than I was. The big difference was that she didn’t let her fear stop her. She just noticed her fear and charged on past it.
Once I asked her why she did this – what was her payoff? She replied, “Because it’s the best way I can learn about myself and how life works. If I succeed, great! I learn something. If I don’t succeed, great again! I learn something!”
My suggestion is that EVERY time we take a risk and attempt something that “doesn’t work”, why not, instead of kicking ourselves, blaming someone else or dismissing it as a “fluke”, simply say, “Wow. That experience was FOR ME!” Then take a few minutes and determine what the learning was.
I don’t know about you, but instead of repeating the same stuff over and over, I’d rather get the gold and move on.
From Linda Larsen, your motivational speaker who is swimming in gold