Funny You Should Ask

Funny you should ask buscemiAsk a woman what qualities she looks for in a mate, and invariably one of the top answers is “sense of humor.” To which I always think, sure, as long as he doesn’t look like the actor Steve Buscemi. But now comes research out of Stanford that shows women are actually hard-wired to prefer men who make them laugh. Women, it seems, have evolved to appreciate humor, whereas men have evolved to produce humor. (Which isn’t to say that women can’t be wicked funny – just read a few of the blogs on this website from the brilliant, funny gals who post here.)

So funnily enough, it’s been the truth all along – women really do want a man who makes them laugh. And if he looks like George Clooney, well, even better.  Bottom line, all of us can benefit from a healthy dose of lightening up.


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  1. I have heard funny motivational speakers (many of whom are women) talk about the copious benefits of using humor in every aspect of their lives and then give brilliant examples of it. I hadn't heard that men are evolving to PRODUCE more humor – but I like it! Why not! Thanks for the good info, Colette!


  2. Funny you should bring this topic up, Colette. I am in the process of interviewing Regina Barreca, author of "They Call Me Snow White But I Drifted" for a future blog post. She writes some FASCINATING stuff about the difference in humor between men and women. One thing she mentions is that society hasn't always valued funny women, so women learned to keep their sense of humor limited to the kitchen conversations with other women.  Funny women were seen as strong women, and strong women were a threat to some men. She talked about women she knew who were funny and how it negatively affected their relationships – in some cases because it threatened the men – in other cases because the men didn't like it when she got serious. I can relate. I once dated a guy who loved funny Kelly, but as soon as serious Kelly showed up, he was out.  Anyway… topic from your post, but I just wanted to comment on this anyway. I'll be sharing the interview once it's complete, and you'll hear some more fascinating things Regina has studied about humor.

  3. PS    I've known lots of funny guys in my life who started out as not-so-attractive in my book. But once I got to know them, and fell in love with their sense of humor, they became good looking. Well, most of them. There is a line even I wouldn't cross.   :)

  4. One of my joys of being with Frenchie is how much he loves to laugh.  He isn't the make 'em laugh kind of guy, but he loves being around the funny.  It's pure joy to see someone's face light up with they laugh.  Bonus? I never have to say to him 'Lighten up!' – he's usually already there.  Keep these great posts coming – they are funny and insighful and I love the balance.

  5. Thank God for anyone with a sense of humor!  It makes the most wonderful of friendships and keeps a long marriage going for longer than you would imagine.  Do you remember the joy when our young children displayed their first glimpse of humor?  Thrilling!

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