Front-Row People are Greedy and Unethical? I certainly hope not!

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front-row seats are not for greed or unethical

I had a very interesting answer to a question during a recent speech.  The title of my speech was ‘Why Settle for the Balcony? How to get a Front-Row Seat in Life!’.  I talk about how people have choices to where they sit in the venue of life.  Balcony seats are not good.  They are in the back, sometimes in view-obstructed seats.  They can come and go and no one would really notice, so they could get away with not being engaged.

General admission seats are not bad, but not great either.  These are seats where most people sit – sort of a comfort zone section.  There is some truth to that coffee mug that says ‘Life is lived right outside of your comfort zone.’

And then there is the front-row!  I believe life is lived in the front-row!  That’s where you are most engaged, most stimulated, most involved.  And, if you ask me, you meet other like-minded people who also believe life is lived in the front-row.

When I speak about this topic, after explaining what I mean by the venue of life, I ask my audience what is it that prevents most people from sitting up front.  If you have been speaking as long as I have,  you know the responses that you will typically get and you are prepared for them.  For this question, the answers are inevitably:  Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown, fear of what people would think, fear of being called on, general insecurity, self-esteem etc.

Imagine my surprise when I heard for the first time, ‘Maybe people perceive that the folks who sit up front are greedy and unethical and they don’t want to hang around those kind of people.’

Wow.  That one threw me for a loop!  It really made me think that if people perceived front-row people as being greedy and unethical then there is no way they would even think of venturing up to the front-row.  I know I didn’t want to let this comment throw me off and then obsess about it all day.  You know how you receive evaluations and everyone loves you and one person thought you were a hack?  That one person’s opinion seeps into your brain and it’s hard to let that one go.  I wanted to make sure I didn’t stay obsessed so after my keynote and before going to lunch with my client, I went to find this person.  Thankfully, he gave me a very nice comment on my keynote.  To which I said, ‘thank goodness you still don’t think that only greedy and unethical people sit up front!’.  Then, he clarified his comment by saying that I was asking for audience feedback and he wanted to contribute, but his comments were just in general not his personal feeling.  Again, wow.  So glad I didn’t walk away with all of those thoughts running through my head.

Here’s the nice learning opportunity for me.  In my next presentation, I may be able to use this.  And, I could probably do a better job at explaining that I wholly endorse getting a front-row seat as long as it’s done ethically and with goodness in your heart! After all, one of the best front-row seats is being an usher to help someone to THEIR front-row seat.  And, like I always say, with the right attitude and perspective ANY seat can be a front-row seat!

From your sitting in the front-row right now motivational speaker, Marilyn Sherman

About

Marilyn Sherman, CSP is a Front-Row Leadership Expert helping people get out of the balcony and get a front-row seat in life. For over 20 years she has inspired audiences with topics on Visioning, Goal Achievement and having a No More Excuses attitude! Check out her fun, dynamic style at http://www.MarilynSherman.com

Marilyn Sherman, Owner UpFront Presentations - Helping people get a Front-Row seat in their life!
http://www.MarilynSherman.com
9030 W. Sahara Ave #444
Las Vegas, NV 89117
702-631-5700

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Comments

  1. Ahhhh, Marilyn.  I can SO relate to this one.  It seems there will always be SOMEONE who takes a point to some negative conclusion.  Or decides that SOMEONE ELSE might draw a negative conclusion. And here’s what I believe:  If ONE person voices that conclusion, I am really happy because it means there probably is someone else in the room who is thinking the same thing. And because someone said it out loud, then I get to address it out loud.  

    I LOVE the fact that now you can address this in the exact way that you suggest:  That we get our front row seat with integrity, ethically and with goodness in your heart.  Thank you to this man who gave you this distinction that you can add to your explanation of what a front row seat means!

    GREAT post, Marilyn!!! 

  2. So appreciate this blog. We can all relate, and I love that you are going to use this to refine your presentation for more clarity. Well done.

  3. Very interesting post! Thanks for sharing Marilyn! Opinions are as unique as people and their unique perspective on the world. There might be some who were taught it was rude to sit up front – to ask for something – to demand a front row seat in life. Many women, for example, were taught to just be quiet and look pretty. Other people were taught to be humble – and may be confusing humility with assertiveness. Again – too many opinions out there to split hairs. I think you are doing just GREAT!

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