Everywhere You Go – There You Are

Honesty time.

Is there a piece of criticism about you that you have heard more than a couple of times in your life?  Things like,

“You are always so critical.”
“Why do you have to be so intense?”
“You are so negative.”
“You are so selfish.”
“You always have to be RIGHT!”

And yes, it’s VERY easy to dismiss such a criticism with, “What does HE know?”  Or, “Yes, well SHE should talk!”  But there is a way that you can tell if what they are saying has any merit or not.

Start paying attention to the qualities or behaviors in other people that annoy you.

Three times this week, (in three different situations, with three different people,) I found myself very activated by someone’s behavior.  In one situation I was in a meeting where someone was talking and I found them SO annoying that I actually made up an excuse to leave the room.  And after I thought about it for a while, what was REALLY revealing to me was that the qualities I was assigning to them – were the EXACT things I have heard said about me in the past.

Oh, I didn’t want to realize that. I wanted to point fingers at THEM and say, “What a complete  #*$@”  BUT, if I’m going to be honest, then I have to admit – I was just looking at myself.  I was looking at the exact behaviors that people had accused me of and I was seeing the impact those behaviors had on other people.  It wasn’t pretty.

I believe that the good news is that by owning it – I can take steps to change it.  We can’t correct something that we won’t acknowledge is a problem.

So I invite you to start noticing what behaviors in others really activate you.  Just observe, detach for a moment and ask yourself if that could actually be what YOU do.

From your motivational speaker, Linda Larsen, looking for ways to continually improve

 

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Motivational Speaker Linda Larsen, CSP has been described by meeting planners and audiences as "hysterically funny," and "riveting." Known for her ability to connect on an authentic and emotional level with audiences, her spontaneous sense of humor, and her engaging and powerful stories, Linda is passionate about sharing ideas to help people live their finest, best, and most productive lives. Her riveting and true story of being kidnapped and held hostage at gunpoint by an escaped convict, and the strategies she used to escape, will give people the tools THEY need to rise above any of life's toughest challenges, to communicate more effectively with THEIR difficult person, and to find creative solutions to THEIR problems. To book motivational speaker, Linda Larsen: 941-927-4700
http://www.lindalarsen.com

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Comments

  1. FASCINATING! Simply fascinating! I can’t wait to try this out!!!

  2. I especially like the term ‘activate’ – again you find such great nonjudgmental words to post!  Such good stuff.

  3. I can still remember the day I made the connection, had the a-ha moment that what irritated me in others is what I had yet to accept in myself. Let’s just say that reflection wasn’t pretty. Your words are always beautiful, telling and truthful.  Anyone can benefit from your teachings Ms. Motivational Speaker.

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