Do you Pause? This Motivational Speaker Wants to Know

Your-Communication-Connection-Speaker-Colette-CarlsonIf you’ve ever taken a course in powerful public speaking skills you’ll undoubtedly hear about the power of the pause. If you desire to influence another (as all motivational speakers do), it’s best to pause following a profound statement or story.  This gives the listener time to catch up and take a moment to relate personally to your point. It’s effective, but that’s not the pause I’m referring to today.

This powerful pause is the one you take when you’re having one of those moments. Have you ever had one of those moments? You know, when the grocery line creates flashbacks to a popular theme park and the cashier seems to be stuck in slow motion? Or perhaps when your wireless mouse decides to stop squeaking even after you’ve put in fresh batteries and you’re working under a deadline. Before blowing a gasket at the grocery or throwing that techy varmint against your office wall, pause……..and ask yourself:

1.    Is this really a crisis?
2.    Will this even matter in ten minutes? Two hours? Tomorrow?

Usually not, and that’s the power of the pause — perspective.

About

Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at http://www.ColetteCarlson.com or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. I know you motivational speakers are made of sterner stuff, but as an average schlep I am most likely to become unglued over the little annoying things in life. Yours is good advice, especially when I have a 7 year old waiting to confront me over every expletive I utter.

  2. Brilliant, Colette! This is JUST the kind of advice that GREAT motivational speakers are known for – and clearly you are in that category. I love the power of a pause. I am getting better at it only because I am consciously working on it. Just did a one the other day and what was so very cool was that in the PowerPause, I decided that saying anything at all in response to the other person, would have been pointless. So I opted to smile and walk away. NOT my normal MO I must say – but something that made me feel VERY good as I left! Thanks for the great reminder!

  3. Ahhhh Colette, yes. Thanks for shining a light on this! I’m fortunate in that my three wonderful children (ages 4, 7 and 8) seem to be absolutely committed to providing opportunities for me to develop this capacity…. they’re currently focusing on teaching me how to bring my awareness to what’s going on and then to put things into perspective. This mornings example:
    Child # 1: Feeding box of cookies to our two dogs
    Me: “What in the name of all that is holy are you doing?”
    Child # 2: “Dad, you really need to breathe”
    Me: Taking a deep breath… and asking myself “How important is it to me to be right at this particular moment…”
    Child # 1: “Yeah Dad, you really need to breathe… you know what, the dogs really like these cookies…”
    Me: ….
    Sufficient to say it turned into a memorable and thoroughly enjoyable morning… thanks to the pause and the perspective… and not needing to be right.

    Thanks again Colette! Pausing and reflecting has given me the opportunity to enjoy the experience all over again.

  4. Ahhhh Colette, yes. Thanks for shining a light on this! I’m fortunate in that my three wonderful children (ages 4, 7 and 8 ) seem to be absolutely committed to providing opportunities for me to develop this capacity…. they’re currently focusing on teaching me how to bring my awareness to what’s going on and then to put things into perspective. This mornings example:
    Child # 1: Feeding box of cookies to our two dogs
    Me: “What in the name of all that is holy are you doing?”
    Child # 2: “Dad, you really need to breathe”
    Me: Taking a deep breath… and asking myself “How important is it to me to be right at this particular moment…”
    Child # 1: “Yeah Dad, you really need to breathe… you know what, the dogs really like these cookies…”
    Me: ….
    Sufficient to say it turned into a memorable and thoroughly enjoyable morning… thanks to the pause and the perspective… and not needing to be right.

    Thanks again Colette! Pausing and reflecting has given me the opportunity to enjoy the experience all over again.

  5. Being the sort who can go from zero to demonic in minutes – I needed to hear this Colette. Unfortunately I usually hit pause after I have exploded. I need to stop myself, count to ten, breathe, eat some chocolate (I mean Kale) and choose to act instead of REACT. I would be a better person – and have one more thing I can teach as a motivational speaker.

  6. You’re absolutely right Colette. Pausing is pleasing to everyone – if you think of the other option, you know blowing your lid. Good advice – especially for those of us who like to speak. Sometimes the best response is no response at all.

  7. Pausing…..Taking in all the other motivational speaker’s responses…..You’re so right, Colette, the pause is the best way to get perspective. Thanks for the reminder.

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