Choose Your Focus

200236712-001California is experiencing an epic drought – some claim the worst in 500 years. It may be hard to imagine for those of you throughout the rest of the country who’ve been dealing with the effects of record snow and ice. But in my adopted home state, our drought has become a crisis. The nightly news continuously features images of shrinking reservoirs and anxious farmers. That’s why last week, when we finally got some desperately needed rain, so many of us did a grateful little happy dance. Except one of my Facebook friends, based on her status update: “Well, this rain should make for an interesting drive home from work.” Sigh. This myopic attitude reminded me that we have the power to decide how we will react to what happens to us – not that the rain specifically fell just to slow down this person’s commute, as far as I know. But in the bigger picture, science has proven that “we have the power to decide what our experience is and isn’t,” according to social psychologist and author Dr. Sonya Lyubomirsky.

“Consider that during every minute of our day, you are choosing to pay attention to some things and opting to ignore, overlook, suppress or withdraw from most other things,” she noted in a recent Success magazine article. “What you choose to focus on becomes part of your life, and the rest falls out…We can change our lives simply by changing our attitudes of mind.”

I’m choosing to focus on the hope that with April showers will come May flowers in the Golden State.


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  1. GREAT focus, Colette! And while I'm sure that many motivational speakers talk about this and how important it is to be in charge of where you want to put your attention, I'm always appreciative when people like you point supply a little evidence as well! Good stuff!

  2. Wow. What a great post.  That facebook poster complaining about the rain is obviously living in a state of the world revolving around him/her.  I think life is much better lived when we look outside ourselves as much as possible. Thanks, Colette, for the reminder. I will pray for more rain to come your way. Even if it makes for a bad hair day.

  3. I believe it was Dr. Wayne Dyer who said 'We move toward an become what's upper most in our minds.'  The great thing about that and in your post, it's totally up to us what we put in our minds, what we focus on.  I love it!


  4. Right on, Colette!  Don't you feel that it's much easier to see where someone else puts their focus? Your post is a great reminder for me to pay more attention to mine!

  5. I'm adjusting my Gain Lense view right this moment!  I love how you said "… and the rest falls out…" I like the idea that we can just let negativity fall right out of our minds if we so choose! 

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