Beatles or Beach Boys? Dare NOT to Compare

Funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson says dare not to compareI’m passionate about how much time we waste comparing ourselves to others. In fact, in one of my programs, I teach people to “Dare NOT to Compare.”  I came across a story that once again illustrates how destructive it can be when we compare ourselves to others.  And today, I can add a happy postscript.

After their own chart-topping success, The Beach Boys found themselves competing musically with The Beatles. Beach Boys composer Brian Wilson, already having a difficult time topping The Beatles’ previous album, found himself facing their latest, Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band. The critical acclaim of this album made Wilson, who was already battling drug dependency and mental illness, give up trying.

Here’s the irony.  Wilson was unaware that his album Pet Sounds had inspired Sir Paul McCartney’s writing on Sgt. Pepper’s. Sir Paul later said, “It was Pet Sounds that blew me out of the water…I love the album so much.”  You see, Wilson was so busy comparing and contrasting, he missed seeing his influence on one of the greatest albums ever made.

Happily, today Brian Wilson is again touring and composing and writing his autobiography. Earlier this year, he received a Grammy Award for Best Historical Album for The SMiLE Sessions, which is a reminder it’s never too late to begin again.

In truth, this “measuring up” struggle is self-imposed. Dare NOT to compare, and go be the best you. From a motivational speaker who is taking a page of her own advice!  


Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. Love this Colette! You are singing my song. Not just good advice for motivational speakers – but good advice for everyone! Going to share it right now!

  2. So true, Colette!  I've been in this situation.  Have you?  I was beating myself up for not teaching an exercise class as well as "her" and as it turned out, "she" was inspired by me to become a better instructor.  That's just one example of how destructive comparing  ourselves to others can be.  Great reminder because we're never too old to fall into that place of comparing, are we?

  3. Wow. We are all singing the same song! All of us! And I agree with Kelly, it's not just motivational speakers who do this. It's just that we all have such flippin' brilliant OTHER motivational speakers to compare ourselves to! Not that we would…(but we do sometimes.) But it's great advice, Colette, and a very timely reminder for me…

  4. My theme this year was to let go of destructive things like jealousy, resentment, and yes, comparing myself to others.  It's a challenge at times, which is why I really love this post!!  Who knew?


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