A big part of Halloween fun is the chance to be someone else for a night – a vampire, a witch, or a naughty something-or-other. (Notice how every costume now comes in the “naughty” variation? It’s one thing for adults, but some of those pre-teen costumes make girls look like Prosti-tots! Just sayin’). But what about those personas, those masks, we wear throughout the year?
As a motivational speaker, I remind people, “Speak your Truth.” A major part of that includes living as your authentic self. But sometimes we’ve played a role for so long – spouse, parent, child, employee, supervisor — we lose sight of who we really are. We define ourselves by how we believe we “should” behave within the boundaries of our roles. It’s safe and comfortable there, isn’t it? Allowing your true self to be seen requires risk, and a big one for many of us: What if people don’t like me? News flash: Everyone DOESN’T like you. But you’re still breathing, right?
Perhaps you’ve played a role for so long, you’re not sure who your authentic self is. If so, start to listen to your feelings — the ones that surface when you say yes to another distraction disguised as an opportunity when you’ve just told another you’re overwhelmed. Listen to the feelings that surface when someone doesn’t come through for you and you respond, “That’s okay.” Listen to your truth. What better time than now to take off your mask and be yourself?