A Valuable Gift to Give Yourself

gift to give yourselfSitting in front of my computer, I suddenly burst out angrily, “You are such an idiot!” Who was the recipient of my ire? Me. That’s right, I was berating myself in a way I would never talk to anyone else, and it was over something trivial: I’d closed out of a program before completing my work. I know I’m not alone. How many times have you caught yourself in this type of destructive self-talk? It becomes an almost unconscious habit.  Yet, we know how powerful our words can be, so why would we want to tear ourselves down like this? I propose that as we approach gift-giving season, we give ourselves the beautiful gift of compassion and commit to speaking to ourselves the way we would to a cherished friend.

In fact, this reminds me of an incredible blog that speaks to how we talk to ourselves when it comes to our bodies. As someone who still works at decreasing the negative self-talk when it comes to my crepe paper upper knees, thinning hair, chub rub and baggy morning lids, think I’ll revisit as well on the 8 Women Dream site.



Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at http://www.ColetteCarlson.com or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. I hadn't read that post before on body shaming. What a concept!  Is it me, or are there more media outlets hi-lighting this issue? You know the mommy-yoga woman vs. the plus size store owner – each claiming to empower women to love themselves?  I like what Iman said in the blog you mentioned: imagine if we woke up and just didn't care what other people thought.  I'll work on that!  In the meantime, thanks for the reminder to be kind to ourselves during the holiday and all year round.

  2. Colette, you are one of the most sincere genuine caring empowering women I know. You give it to others in spades. It is not an act. It is not fake. It is you. You have an amazing gift for bringing out the very best in people. And you deserve that too. So, yes, please let yourself experience that kindness you so easily give to others. It is truly a blessing.

  3. Ah yes, Colette. You would think that, as motivational speakers who continually remind others to be kind to themselves, we would extend that same kindness to ourselves. But, oh we do forget, don't we? I am constantly working on this one. Thank you for the reminder that I need to pay attention to how I'm talking to myself! 

  4. Colette, I consider this post your gift to all of us motivational speakers on this site and friends everywhere!  Thank you for the wonderful reminder tied with a bow!

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