3 Words to Increase Persuasiveness & Confidence

Communication-Speaker-Colette-CarlsonFor too many people, public speaking invokes nervousness, sweaty palms and dry mouth — ironically, at a time when you need just the opposite!

What to do? Well, according to the latest study, when asked to give an impromptu three-minute talk, research participants who first said to themselves, “I am excited,” scored higher on persuasiveness and confidence than those who told themselves, “I am anxious” or tried to calm down. So it’s better to channel that arousal in a positive direction by being energetic and passionate, according to researcher Alison Wood Brooks.

As a motivational speaker, I know the easiest way to calm my nerves is three-fold:

  1. Preparation. The number one way to reduce fear in any situation is to be prepared. This requires not waiting until the last minute to gather research and write the darn thing!
  2. Practice. Rather than avoid opportunities to speak, grab any chance that comes your way.
  3. Personal – NOT! Rather than making the presentation all about you, spin your focus and make it all about the audience. As many of my fellow speaker bloggers have previously mentioned, when we choose to show up and provide service to others, our anxiety reduces as a result.

I am excited! Are you?



Step into the Truth Booth, improve your life, and laugh along the way with funny motivational speaker Colette Carlson. How did she go from emotional coward and the Pizza Delivery’s favorite customer to #1 sales producer for sales legend Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy, featured in Success Magazine, a 50 lb. weight loss, and inspiring audiences at Microsoft, Accenture, Pepsi, Boeing, and organizations worldwide? Visit her at http://www.ColetteCarlson.com or call 760-230-1212.

Colette founded Speak Your Truth, Inc. to share her success systems and inspire others to Think It! Speak It! Live It! Her tools and takeaways create authentic, long-lasting change in every aspect of your life. With a MA in human behavior, a successful business and 2 teenage daughters, Colette provides a unique combination of education, research, real-life experience, and heartfelt humor to motivate you with her high content programs. Improve your Communication Skills, Work-Life Balance, Sales, Leadership, Assertiveness, Negotiation…all wrapped in the genuine power of Speaking Your Truth.

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  1. Motivational speakers, you would think, should know these three things, but I'm not sure I've ever heard it boiled down to such simplicity! Three little words that say it very well! Thanks so much, Colette for the reminder: It doesn't have to be complicated. Just prepare, practice and don't make it personal! I love it!

  2. OMG – what brilliant advice! So simple, and yet so brilliant. When you're about to hit the stage, just tell yourself you aren't nervous. And you will believe it. I needed this. Thank you Colette!

  3. So true Colette!  At some early point in our careers as motivational speakers haven't we all experienced those jangled nerves and dry mouth because we hadn't done your "magic 3"?  And then likewise, felt the joy when we did?  Great reminder!

  4. Yes!  I certainly am learning that involving the audience is a game changer when it comes to untangling my jangling nerves!   Simple.  Effective.  True.  Just what I would expect from your brilliant  motivational speaker wisdom!  

  5. Once again – your timing is on target! I have two speeches coming up and I need to really prepare my customized remarks.  Thanks Colette!!!

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