Late last year I went to a conference in New Orleans to help make funny motivational speakers even funnier. Also attending was a fabulous fellow speaker and friend whom I never get to see, except at conferences like this. I'll call her…Amy.
Yesterday I got an email from Amy to me and another speaker (let's call her Connie) who lives close to me – introducing us to each other. It was a bright, happy, Amy-like email filled with fun and spice, suggesting that since we were both two of the most amazing people she knew and we should know each other if we didn't already. Her email made me smile and feel GREAT!
I immediately emailed Connie back with the following message:
"Well hi there Connie! Are you a member of NSA-CF? I am but seldom get to the meetings – but if I know YOU are going to be at the next one – I'll try to come! AND – if you are a friend of Tami's – you must be wonderful. That's all I'm saying. LLOOXX Linda"
Today I got an email from Connie. This is the entirety of her message to me:
"Linda. We met in New Orleans. I recently joined NSA CF, but have not received any meeting info yet. I will follow up on. And get back to you. C."
So I need your feedback here. I really do. MY first instinct was that she wasn't very friendly. My second thought was that she was just in a hurry. My next thought was, well, you can be in a hurry and still be warm and friendly. My NEXT thought was… uh oh, did I meet her in New Orleans and she's offended that I didn't remember her? I finally settled on the fact that she probably had no idea how she sounded in that email – AND, I wasn't particularly interested in meeting her. No animosity, no offense, no nothing except I just had no desire to meet her in person. I wish her much success, but it pretty much stops there.
Would you be my voice of reason here? Is there another possibility I should be considering? Am I missing something?
I'll conclude with something I have said before and will probably say again. EMAIL IS A SLIPPERY SLOPE UPON WHICH TO SKI – or to communicate effectively. It takes a tremendous amount of EXTRA thought and conscious intention. What might sound perfectly fine in your head can get horrifically lost in translation via email.
From your motivational speaker Linda Larsen, who really does need your input