Two children, fighting over one toy.
And if you are the adult in charge, it’s easy, and much quicker to simply solve the problem, take away the toy, or force one child to share with the other. But doing this deprives children of learning how to engage their own problem solving abilities.
A great response on the part of a parent might be to calmly say something like, “We have two children here and one toy. How can we solve this problem?”
While you can’t realistically expect an intelligent discourse on the myriad options available, you might be very surprised at some of the doable suggestions that those little munchkins can come up with! Plus they can feel good about how THEY fixed the problem! And like I always say, since little kids feel powerless so much of the time, it’s great to find opportunities where they can feel in control – especially of solving problems and finding solutions!
From your motivational speaker, Linda Larsen, who surely wishes she’d known all this stuff when her son was a kid!